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Pachalo chose banalume bakupempheka kutolapo lwande na banthu bazaumoyo na bakupanga malango kumazga masuzgo gha umoyo wakubaba. Kafukufuku withu wakulongola kuti banalume ba m’Malawi balikuchipokelera kale, kasi balekelechi?
Mazgo ghakuti “mwanalume wankhongono”- chikung’anamula kuti mwanalume wankhongono kweniso nkhwantha pa kugonana. Mazgo agha ghakususkika na maghanoghano na banalume ba mumizi agho ghakulongola kuti pali nthowa zinandi zakubila mwanalume panji kuba dada.
Vilongolero ivi ni vyakulondezga vyakafukufuku wa banalume na umoyo wakubaba kufuma ku vidoka vya unyamata kufika ku udada, uyo wakachitika ku banalume 55 pamoza na bawoli babo mu boma la Karonga- muchigaba cha chitumbuka kumpoto mumphepete mwa Nyanja ya Malawi. Banalume abo bakababika vyaka 40 ivyo vyajumpha (1959-1994) bakuyowoya vya HIV, kagwiliskilo ntchito ka nthowa za kulera, vibwezi na umoyo wa bana kweniso kuleka kubaba ndivyo bakudumba pa umoyo wabo. Nthowa zabo zikupambana kweniso nkhanandi cha kuti zibe zakunyoroka.
Banalume aba, abo banandi mwa ibo mbalimi, balovi panji bantchito zaluso bakwandula kuti ivi bakukumana navyo pa umoyo wabo wa kuba dada vikutolera na umo yilili mbumba yabo, ku mpingo wabo (kusazgilako kukula kwa mipingo ya Pentekositi kwamba mu vyaka vyama 1970), vyakuphalazga makani, umoyo wakugonana, chuma na chitemwa. Nyengo zinyakhe ivi vikubatolera ku nthowa zakupambana pambana.
Vyakuchitika vya boma na mawupu agho nga boma chala ivyo vilato vyabo nkhuchiska ntchito za banalume ngati bafumu; kuchiska banalume kupimiska HIV pamoza na bawoli babo vikuwuska machitiro yakupambana pambana ngati kusekana pa “maghanoghano ghakuchita ntchito za gender” kufikila kukupepuskika usange mwana wathaskika ku HIV. Chileke kuba chakuzizika kuti wupu wa “banalume” wukuzgebelekera apo tikughanaghanira zintchito zakuzirwa izo bangachita kukwezga umoyo wakubaba ngati bawukirano na balala, bafumu na badada, basambizgi, bantchito zaumoyo, baliska, mafumu mwakuzunula bachoko waka.
Pakuteghelezga ivyo banalume bakukumana navyo payekha payekha nakughanaghanira za mphambano zabo ntchakuzirwa kupulikiska umo nkhani za kubaba m’ Malawi bakuziwonera. Peji ili labikika na chilato chakuti banthu basande ivyo banyabo balikuyowoya kweniso nabo bapelekeso maghanoghano ghabo.
Vithuzithuzi vyakusangika apa vikatoleka pa nyumba zabo ngati viwongo kwa ibo chifukwa chakupeleka nyengo yabo mu kafukufuku, kweniso banthu aba balikuzomelezga kuti bagabane nkhani zabo na chalo chose chapasi. Khumbo lakuwoneska vithuzi na nkhani zabo vikulongola kuzirwa na kunota uko banalume bakubanako pakuba dada. Ivi vikwandula vya ibo na wubali uwo ngwakuzirwa pa kafukufuku uyu, naumo banalume balikujiyimilira pa bekha na banyabo ngati bapapi, bakutemwa na bakupwelelera.
‘Ndise’ ba Fiona Parrott, Green Kapira, Dorothy Makoka, Aaron Ndovi, Blessings Mwandosya, Levie Gondwe, Paston Mkandawire, Misheck Nkhata and Mia Crampin, bakufuma ku Karonga Prevention Study, Malawi na University of Amsterdam, The Netherlands abo ibo bekha mukati mwakuchita kafukufuku uyu mwababika bana 6, mwa ibo muli bamuleza. Tikukumbukaso wupu wa On the Record benibabo batovwira kuthandazga vyakusanga vithu kweniso nakuvibika pa makina gha website.
Ntchito yithu iyi tikuyipeleka na vibongo kwa waliyose uyo wakatolapo lwande mwakujipeleka na kuzomelezga kuti tigwiliske ntchito mazgo ghabo na vithuzi vyabo nakukolerana nase kuti ntchito iyi yifike apa yili.
Chibwezi chingaba “mwabi panji soka.” Mwanakazi “wangakhumba vinandi ivyo” vingaba vyakusuzga kugula. Chidoka chakugonana na mwanakazi “chingatimbanizga maghanoghano” nakupangiska unonono wakubikapo maghanoghano pa sukulu. Nadi kugonana nkhwananga kwakuti ungalangika mu sukulu na mu nyumba zinyakhe.
Banyamata banyakhe bakati vibwezi vikupeleka mwabi kuti umanye umo vikubila pakugonana (nakujitukumula pa ivyo), wakubazilwiskaso ngati banyawo, banyakhe wakuchezga nabo nakudumbiskana vya sukulu:
“Nyengo zinyakhe tikagonananga kweni kanandi tikadumbilananga vya sukulu na kupasana ma kadi ‘ghakukhumbilana viwemi’ chomene nyengo zamayeso.”
Banandi bana khumbilo lakumalizga masambilo ghaku secondary agho ngakulipila kuti bazakabe namwabi wakusanga nchito izo nzakusoba, kweni ivi ni vyakusuzga kuvikwaniska.Kanandi sukulu yikukhwaskana na vyaka vyakuwelezga makalasi, kusambila ku sukulu zakupambanapambana nakuwukapo pachikaya kukakhala nabali. Kafukufuku wasonosono uyo wachitika na ba Karonga Prevention study akulongola kuti banalume 17 pa 100 na banakazi 6 pa 100 ba misinkhu ya vyaka 20-30 ndibo bakukwela nakusanga Malawi School Certificate of Education.
Bapapi na babali bakusambizga banyamata vya uheni wakwamba vyakugonana mwalubilo panji kutola mwalubilo chomene:
“Pakuti usange ndingatola matenda pa musinkhu uwu, chikung’anamula kuti umoyo wane watayika.”
“[Babali bane] bakayowoya kuti bakumanya kuti banthu banandi bakudoka vyakugonana usange bali nachibwezi, ndipo pala ungatondeka kujikola ntchiwemi kujithaska. Bakati ntchiwemi kuba nachibwezi pakuti mukumanyana nkhalo pambele mundatolane, kweni tikwenela kujikanizga vyakugonana.”
Mawupu gha bawukilano, agho ghakugwila ntchito pamoza na mipingo na mawupu agho nga boma chala ghakulutilila kupeleka mwabi kwa bawukilano kuti basambile vinthu ivyo kale vikaghanaghanilikanga kuba vya muzilo. Bakudumbiskana umo “bangakulila kuba banalume na banakazi bakugomezgeka,” umo “bangajithaskila ku HIV nakusanga mwabi wakusanga wovwili wakukanizgila nthumbo,” nakukumana na banyabo abo bali namaghanoghano ngati ghabo. Banandi wakukhumba kupimiska pamoza HIV pambele bandatolane.
Panyengo yanthumbo zambula kunozgekela, banyamata banyakhe bakukana nthumbo pamaso pa balala pakopa kuti bangachichizga kunjila munthengwa na ntchito zose izo zikulondezga. Nangawuli banyamata banyakhe bakuzomela nthumbo nakuphala pakwelu mwakujitemwa kuti “wanyamula katundu wane”.
Pala batolana chingaba chakukhozga soni ndipo chakusuzga kuti babili aba balutilile na sukulu. Nthengwa yikung’anamula kuti banyamata banjila mu wupu wa balala, wakusanga wovwili kufuma ku ulimi, ulovi panji maganyu. Kuzomela panji kukana nthumbo chikutolela naumo munthu waghanaghanila panyengo iyo: kuzomelezga kuba dada chikung’anamula kuti munyamata wazomela umoyo wa balala.
“Nkhaba nawofi chifukwa nkhamanyanga chala kuti ningafiska kumpwelelela mwanakazi nakuti, 'uyu ni ntchito yane palijeso munyakhe wakumpwelelela iye’. Waleka bapapi bakhe nane naleka bane, nilije mubali wane wakuti ningamugomezga kweni ndekha.”
Pala munyamata waleka sukulu, bapapi banyakhe bakumuchiska muvyakukhumba vya masambilo gha ntchito nakuyipenja, banyakhe bakudinginyika bakuti, “nazamulya pawuli sima yakuphikika na mkamwana wane?”
Chingaba chakuzizwiska kuti mwanalume wakhale kwambula kutola muyilayila kuno ku Karonga uko banalume balala pafupifupi 100 pa 100 balikutola. Maghanoghano yakupenja wovwili ngati munthu wakumphikila panji wakupwelelela banthu bapanyumba mpaka ku chitemwa chapakati pa mwanalume na mwanakazi ndivyo vikupangiska mwanalume kudokela kutola. Palije midauko yakukhazikika ya banyamata pachitumbuka, mwantheula nthengwa ndicho chilongolelo chakwamba kuti munyamata “waba mulala.”
Nyengo zose banalume bakumpoto bakutola ndipo banakazi wakutoleka – bakutengwa. “Tikuyowoyanga kuti wasungwana wakuzgeba munyumba zabapapi babo.” Mwamidauko banthu bakutolana wakukhala pachikaya cha bapapi bamwanalume kweni sono vyasintha chifukwa banthu banandi bakwenda kupenja ntchito.
Banthu bakunjila nthengwa munthowa zakupambanapambana malinga naumo banthu bakusangila ndalama na malango gha mpingo. Abo bali na ndalama bakulondezga ndondomeko yakwenelela, kwamba na “kufikila”.
Kulondezga ndondomeko zanthena izi ntchakuzilwa, ngati naumo mwanalume munyakhe wakandulira, “usange yingazachitika yifwa yamuwoli wako panji mwana ndipo ukalondezga ndondomeko yayi ungasanga kuti bakukuphalila kuti ulipile daninkhe mlandu kulipila babali bamwanakazi mwakuti basunge mwanakazi panji mwana kumawono gha kwa mwanalume. Sono nkhakhumbanga yayi kuti ivi vindichitikile, kweni nkhakhumbanga kuti ndende mwakufwasa ndipo ndipokeleleke ku nyumba zose zibili.”
Nyengo ya nthengwa vidumbilano vya chuma vikuchitika pakati pa nyumba zibiri kwendera mwa thenga. Chuma chinandi chikupelekeka nababali bakuchanalume. Banalume bakusankha kusomphola chifukwa chamasuzgo ya ndalama, ndipo bakupeleka chuma “pachokopachoko” uko batolana kale.
Mwanalume munyakhe akukumbuka umo akasompholera:
“Nkhakumana na muwoli wane munthowa apo akendanga. Akanipempha kuti, 'nimuyeghe panjinga'. Nkhamuzgola kuti, ‘nkhuyegha bawoli babene yayi kweni bambula kutoleka’. Wakazgola kuti, 'nindatoleke kweni nkhupenja munthu kuti waniyeghe panjinga’. Nkhamufumba usange walikutolekapo. Wati wazgola kuti wandatolekepo, 'nkhamufumba kuti kasi ungaba mwabi wane panji wako yayi kuti titolane?’ Wakazgola wakati, ‘usange mukunikhumba ine mwize ku nyumba’. Mbwenu nkhaluta ku nyumba kwakhe. Pamanyuma pakhe wakanipelekezga ku msewu uko tikadumbiskana ndipo wakazomela kwiza kunyumba kwane. Mu usiku nkhasanga kuti mukulu wakhe akuniyimbira foni, ‘mubwezi wako wiza’…nkhatumako kandalama ku bapapi bakhe kubamanyiska kuti mwana wabo ndatola ndine. Umu ndimo nkhatolera.”
Mipingo yikutolapo lwande pa nthengwa za banthu babo: “Usange tapambana pa nkhani zinyakhe munthengwa mwithu balala ba mpingo ndibo bakutilongozga.” Malango gha mpingo wa African ghakuzomelezga mitala apo malango gha Catholic, CCAP na mipingo ya Pentecostal iyo yikukula sono yikusambizga pela chala kweniso kusezga banalume.
Pachanya pa ndondomeko yose ngati umo mwanalume munyakhe wakayowoyela kuti: “Kutola nkhupeleka chuma pera yayi kweni chakwamba ntchitemwa, magomezgeko naumu mukukhalira.”
Tikabafumba banalume umo bakulongolera chitemwa naumo wakumanyira kuti chitemwa chikubawelera. Mazgolo ghakaba agha kukondwa, kujipeleka na kufiskirana makhumbo ghithu:
“Kuseka nakuchezga munyumba.”
“Kudumbiskana na kupulikana mu ivyo tikukhumba kusanga mu ulimi - nakuvwirana kugula katundu usange tavuna mu minda yithu.”
“Nanga bangaba na chakulya chichoko bakuyezeska kunilimbilako. Usange nkhukhumba kuti tigonane pakubavya suzgo. Vinthu ni vinandi kweni kwendera mu ivi nkhupanikizga kuti wakunitemwa.”
“Nyengo zinyakhe nkhugula sobo ndipo nakuchema bawoli bane na bana pamoza. Nkhuluta yayi na sobo kunyumba yiliyose chifukwa nkhopa kuti bangati nkhutemwa chomene mwanakazi wakwamba panji wachibiri.”
Banthu abo bakukhumba kutolana kanandi bakupimiskira pamoza HIV ndipo kulongolana vyakulondezga vyakupima kukutoleka kuti nkhwakuzirwa.
Mwanakazi munyakhe wakukumbuka: “Tose tikasangika kuti tilije kachibungu, tikamba kugomezgana nakulongozgana yumoza na munyakhe.”
Mwanalume munyakhe wakakumbuka: “Wasangikenge kuti walinakachibungu nkhatenge nimukhwimiskenge kwa mwezi umoza, pa manyuma pakhe nakumuleka. Ungamuleka yayi nyengo yeniyiyo.”
Nakweninako kupimiska HIV pamoza kabirikabiri munthengwa chikulongola kujipeleka. Ngati umo mwanalume uyo wakupeleka ndopa chaka na chaka wakayowoyera: “Mukuchita ntheula mukuba bakusangwa munthengwa chifukwa mukuluta nakuchitira vinthu pamoza. Tikukhala makola chomene munthengwa mwithu ndipo nithengwa yakusangwa.”
Matenda gha mgonezi ghakubika nthengwa pachofyo. Banyakhe ngati mwanalume uyu wali na HIV bakawona kuti bawoli bakhe bose bachali bakumutemwa: “Apo nkhamba kulongosola kwa mwanakazi wane uyo alije HIV kuti ntchinonono kuti iwe sono ukhale na ine; chikuba ngati waponyeka mu khululu la nkhalamu. Wakazgola kuti nitikhalenge chifukwa nkhapangana kuti nizamukhala nawe pamtende na pamasuzgo wuwo.”
Nanga wangaba wandababe mwana wakwamba, mwanalume wangaba dada wa babali bakhe bachokobachoko panji bavyala bakhe abo bangatumika kwizakakhala nayo kuti wabapwelele, kubasambizga school panji kusambilako makhaliro kwa munthu wakukhazikika. Mwanalume yumoza wakulongosola kuti: “Nili m’papi wabanung’una bane aba.” Mubali mwanalume mulala, kwali ni dada, sibweni, panji mukulu wane bose mbadada.
Nanga ungaba na ntchito yikulu panji yichoko yakupwelelera babali, kweni ntchisko yakuti ubabe yikuba yikulu. Babwezi bamwanalume bakuchita myati, “tikulindizga miyezi - 9” panji “Ungasakaza waka ndalama zithu (vyawanangwa vya pa ukwati) – tikukhumba mwana.” Mwana wangayana yayi na kabilo kalikose panji chuma icho mwanalume wangasanga: “Usange tingayelezgelera chawanangwa cha mwana na galimoto – mwamusanga kuti munthu wakuzirwa ni uyo wali na mwana. Usange walije mwana wakukhazikika yayi nanga wangaba musambazi.”
Banalume bakukumbuka chimwemwe na ntchindi ivyo vikwiza chifukwa cha chawanangwa cha mwana: “Yikabapo nyengo yakuti mwana wane nkhamukolelanga nyengo zose mumawoko. Chikandibila chakwamba, chikaba ngati munthu wagula shati yipya, iyo wakutemwa kuvwala nyengo zose. Chitemwa chithu chikakuliranga kuliranga.”
Bapapi bakuchemeka mazina gha bana babo bakwamba mpaka nyengo zinyakhe na mazina ghabo ghakuluwika, zina lipya likubakumbuska kusinthika kwa kabilo kabo kwa muyirayira: “Nati nababa mwana wakwamba nkhamanya kuti nakula…kufuma apo nkhamba kuchemeka dada wa Solomon kufuma dazi lira mpaka sono.”
Badada bakalongosola umo bana babo bakwamba bakapokelelekela na banthu muchikaya. Banakazi bakayegha sopo, wufu, mpunga panji bakathenya nkhuni panji bakateka maji kuzakapeleka ku banyina ba mwana. Babali bakiza na vyawanangwa ivi pakuzakawona mwana; “usikiti, ambulera wakafuma ku Karonga, beseni lakugezera mwana na nyale.”
Dada wangagula vitenje vakufuma ku Tanzania vyakubabila mwana na shawelo nyengo zinyakhe na mathebela na "suti ya mwana", mu ivi “banthu wakachitira ukaboni kuti na kondwa”. Mwanalume yumoza wakayowoya kuti: “Nati nababa mwana nkhaleka kusakaza ndalama ku moba. Babali abo bakunitemwa bakamba kuniphalira kuti sono wakula, ukwenela kuleka vinthu ngati ivi. Muwoli wane wakakondwa. Usange nkhwiza 1 koloko [kufuma ku phele] zamulenji ningamanya uli ivyo vyachitika kwa mwana?”
Mtundu ukumanyikwa kwendera mu badada. Kweni mwanalume walinawanagwa wakuti bana bakubabika munthengwa bazomelezgeke ku chanakazi kuti mbakhe usange wapeleka chuma. Banalume abo bandapeleke chibadala balipa wofi wakuti pala nthengwa yamala mwanakazi wangawela na bana: “Usange namuwezga (nthengwa yamala) watilutenge na bana.” Apo banakazi banandi bakukhala kwambula kukondwa mu nthengwa mwakuti bakhale na bana babo; usange mwanalume watondeka kupeleka chuma na kukwaniliska ntchito zakhe bakubika bana bakhe pa wofi wakusinthika vibongo na babali ba mwanakazi, uwo ni msinjilo wukulu.
Mwana kukozga dada ntchakuzirwa chomene usange mwanalume wanankhayiko na mwanakazi wakhe. Mwanakazi wakukumbukira: “Babwezi banyakhe ba mwanalume bakamuphalira kuti nkhendanga makola yayi. Nkhamuphalira kuti bana bose mbakhe kweni wakakayikilanga ndipo nkhamuphalira kuti tilindizge na kuwona ivyo Chiuta watinozgera. Icho chikachitika ntchakuti mwana wachinkhonde wakakozga iyo mwantheula akamupasa zina lakhe”. Mphala za muchikaya na bamulamu bakutolapo lwande lwakumazga viwawa ivyo vikwambika na banalume munthengwa chifukwa chakukayikirana pa nkhani za uzaghali.
Banalume banyakhe bakukolera na kuchetamiska mwana, apo banyakhe bakuwona ngati ni ntchito ya mwanakazi. Kuyegha mwana panjinga usange alwala kuluta ku chipatala, kulipira fizi na kumugulira Malaya, kumusambizga, kupenjera malo bana banalume na kupeleka malo ghakukhalapo usange bana banakazi bawerako ku nthengwa ni zimoza mwa nthowa izo banalume bakulongolera kupwelelera kwawo pa bana mu umoyo wabo. Kulikose uko bana bangakulira kumanya badada babo na mbumba yabadada babo ntchakuzirwa: “Nkhalutanga kukwabo kukachezga. Ati amba kukhala nkhamuyeghanga kuluta nayo ku msika. Ati amba sukulu yakulipira babuya bakhe bakamutuma kwa ine, dada wakhe, kuzakatola fizi. Sono umu ndimo akanimanyira ine.”
CHIPWELELELO PANTHUMBO
Ngati umo mwanakazi yumoza wakandulira, “usange unanthumbo ukuba bwana!”
Kutondeka kwa mwanalume kupwelelera mwanakazi nyengo yanthumbo ntchakofya. Mwanakazi yumoza akawela kukwabo mwakukwiya mwanalume wakhe wati wasakazila ndalama kuvibwezi kuleka vyakukhumba vya muwoli wakhe. Bawiske bakamuphalira kuti nthengwa yimale.
Nangauli banalume bangasekeka chifukwa cha kovwira kwabo: “Usange banyakhe bakukuwona kuti ukupyela namulenji, bakuti, ‘ulimwanalume muwemi, kulondezga vya jenda chifukwa vikuyowoyeka mu radio.”
Banalume bakuchiskika kuti balutenge ku “sikelo” chifukwa banakazi bakupimika. Ngati nthowa yakubachiskila, banakazi abo biza na bafumu babo bakubavwira lubilo. Banalume banyakhe bakuwona ngati ntchiwemi kuluta na bawoli babo ku sikelo kweni vyanthena ivi vichali vindazgobeleke:
“Apo nkhaluta na muwoli wane ku ‘sikelo’ banthu banyakhe bakati, ‘wapasika temwanene’, banyakhe bakati, ‘Ah, wakukhumba kuba chilongolero.’”
Banalume abo bakuti mbakutangwanika kwa ibo bakuti: “chakuzirwa nkhupulika umo vyendera kufuma kwa baboli babo.” Chifukwa icho banalume bakulutira ku sikelo ntchakuti wakajipulikire bekha: “Kuchipatala bakulongosola naumo banthu bangagonerana usange mwanakazi wali na nthumbo; kweniso na mitundu ya chakulya icho mwanakazi wangalya; chifukwa nyengo zinyakhe usange mwanakazi wakwandula nkhughanaghana kuti wakwata waka.”
Ku sikelo mwanalume na mwanakazi bangapimiskila HIV pamoza, usange bandapimike pamoza mwanakazi wangayegha mazaza ghakuti wambe kupimiska payekha nakukaphalira mfumu wakhe mwawofi. Na banalume abo biza na bawoli babo panjinga bakulindizga pawalo nyengo yakupimiska. Usange yumoza wasangika na HIV wakusanga nthowa yakuvikilira uyo walije HIV panji kuthaska mwana kuti waleke kutola HIV kufuma kwa nyina.
Banandi bakugomezga kuti pala bali nakachibungu bakutemweka babo nabo bali nthena. Mwanalume uyu wakandula: “Nkhaba na wofi pakughanaghana kuti chinyakhe chingachitika ku sikelo, kweni nkhamuchiska kuti walute. Nkhaba na wofi wakuti usange nili nako mbwenu kawonekenge kwa iyo…nyengo yikafika yakuti tipimiskile pamoza, ndipo wakasangika kuti walije ichi chikandipa chigomezgo paumoyo wane.”
Mwanalume yumoza wakakumbuka visambizgo ivyo bakapasika mu 2009: “Tikiza kuno kuchipatala ndipo muwoli wane wakapasika kapilisi kakuti wamwe pambeli wandababe kumuvikilila mwana kuti waleke kupoka HIV. Wakaphalilika kuti wawonkheske mwana kwa miyezi 6, kweni wakajumphizga. Apo bakuchipatala bakawona kuti wajumphizga kumonkheska mwana, bakatikalipila!”
Kwamba 2011, banakazi banthumbo na bakonkheska bakwamba kumwa ma ARV nyengo yeneyiyo kwa muyilayila: “Nkhamba kumwa chifukwa nkhaba na nthumbo…mufumu wane wakambaso kumwa chifukwa cha ine.”
KUBABA
Mwanakazi wa nthumbo kanandi wakuchema babali bakhe kuzakampwelelela mpaka wababe na kujumphizga panji kuluta ku bapapi bakhe. Dango la Malawi likuchiska banakazi kubabila kuchipatala. Bafumu bakovwira bawoli babo kuti bakhalenge pafupi na chipatala pambele nthumbo yindawuke: “Nkhiza na wovwiri ngati ndalama, chakulya na nkhuni ku chipatala chaku Jetty uko wakakhalanga.” Niyose yayi uyo wakuluta ku chipatala mu nyengo yiwemi: “Mfumu wane wakapenja galimoto kuti baniyeghe kweni kukabavya, bakaniyegha pa njinga ndipo nkhababila panthowa.”
Banalume banyakhe bakupanikizga chofyo icho banakazi bakukumana nacho pakubaba: “Nkhapweleranga chifukwa m’dumbu wane wakafwa chifukwa cha masuzgo gha nthumbo chaka chamala…” Kweni banyakhe bakupwelera yayi. Ngati umo mwanakazi yumoza wakwandulira: “pa mwana wachitatu na chinayi nkhasuzgika. Ndipo nkhaphalilika ku chipatala kuti usange ningalutilizga kubaba ningataya umoyo wane nakubaleka bana...mfumu wane wakabako yayi ku chipatala ndicho chifukwa wakapulikiska yayi nati namuphalira.” Wati wafumbika, “kuti kasi baboli binu bakumanapo na masuzgo ghalighose pakubaba bana banayi aba?” mfumu wakhe wakazgola kuti “Yayi”.
Mwasonosono, chipatala chapa Jetty chikapempha banakazi kuchiska bafumu babo kwiza kuchipinda chakubabila, nkhani iyo yikaba yakuzizwiska:
“Nkhuwona ngati kupimikila lumoza ntchiwemi, kweni kubakuchipinda chakubabila apo mwanakazi wakubaba – kwa ine ntchawakawaka…Chifukwa chakuti ungakhala yayi pa mpando nakuwonelera muwoli wako wakusuzgika na ulwilwi pakubaba!”
Apo banakazi bakutangwanika kulasiska sindano zakuthaska ku matenda, kanandi badada bakunjilirapo kuyeghera mwana ku chipatala pala walwala. Ichi ntchachilendo yayi.
Mwanakazi munyakhe uyo wakababika mu chaka cha 1988 wakukumbuka umo bawiske bakendera nayo mu vipatala vyakupambanapambana apo wakalwala chomene: “Badada bane bakaniyeghera kuchipatala cha ku Sangilo, kufuma uko ku chipatala cha pa Jetty uko nkhachilira.” Wati wafumbika umo mfumu wakhe wakulongolera chitemwa kwa bana bakhe, mwanakazi munyakhe wakati: “Nyengo zinyakhe usange mwana walwala usiku iwe vyalema, usange ayegha mwana kuya nayo kuchipatala. Ukubavya chakuchita kweni kulondezga waka.”
Usange badada bakwandula visuzgo ivyo bakukumana navyo pakulela bana bakuphala matenda na ulwali munyengo zakuwambililo kwa bana bachoko, kuthukila munthupi, kufumila na vikhoso. Ichi ndicho chikwenela kughanaghanika pakusankha nyengo yakubila na bana.
Dada uyu wakapenja wovwili wa munkhwala wa mwana wakhe wa chinkhonde kweni wakatondeka kufiska luwilo mtunda wa 100 killometres kukafika kuchipatala cha pa boma: “Ichi chikachitika nchakuti tikamanyanga yayi kuti mwana withu wakulwala asima, tikaghanaghananga kuti wakulwala chikhoso waka. Tikazizwa kupulika kuti ndopa zakhe nzakuchepa…ndipo tati taluta nayo kuchipatala ku Jetty wakatipasa yayi munkhwala ndipo bakatiphalila kuti tilute nayo kuchipatala cha ku boma ku Karonga chifukwa pakabavya munkhwala. Tikawelela ndipo mwana wakafwila munthowa pambele tindafike kunyumba.”
Banthu wakuluta nabo ku ng’anga usange baghanaghanilika kuti bali na vimbuza kweniso usange wovwili wa munkhwala watondeka kugwila ntchito. Badada na bamama nyengo zinandi bakuluta pamoza kung’anga chifukwa chakuti chakwambiska ulware wa mwana chingakhwaska yumoza wa ibo mwakuti vikukhumba kuti bose batolepo lwande pakupoka munkhwala mwakuti bakondweleske mizimu. Balala nyengo zinyakhe bakughanaghanira chitasha usange yifwa zabana bachoko zikuwelezgawelezga mu nyumba. Bangamanya kukanizgika kulila, nga midauko yinyakhe kukanizga yifwa zinyakhe:
“Bapapi bithu bakatiphalira kuti tingaliranga yayi kweni tisunge waka thupi. Balala bakatiphalira kuti usange tilirenge munkhwala wutigwirenge ntchito yayi ndipo bana batilutilirenge kufwa. Kweni nkhumanyiska vibi yayi vya chitasha pa msinkhu uwu kuti kwali ni nthenda nadi.”
Usange vyasuzga chomene, pala beneko nthengwa bagomezga kuti mphapo yabo yapambana bakuwona kuti ntchakofya kulutilira kubabirana bana:
“Tikaluta na mwana wane mwanalume ku chipatala cha boma ku Karonga na ku Jetty ndipo pakabavya kusintha kulikose. Ng’anga zinyakhe zikuti chapangiska ni suzgo la munthumbo apo zinyakhe zikuti muli chibwatiko mu nthumbo. Nkhumanya yayi unenesko chifukwa nkhuwona waka mwana wane wakutupa icho ndicho chifukwa nkhamuphalira muwoli wane kuti tileke kubabaso mwasonosono…Usange wakukhumba kubaba munyakhe watengwe kunyakhe chifukwa mphapo yithu yikupambana.”
Nthowa izo banalume bakuthaskila nthumbo zikuzirwa kuyana na nyengo, kugwiliska ntchito ma condom (“nthowa iyo banyamata bakugwiliska ntchito chomene”) na kufumapo pambele bandathire kwa abo bazgobera. Nthowa ya kufumapo iyo yikumanyikwaso na zina la “kuduka” ikutoleka kuti njakofya, mwakusazgilapo, “nyengo zinyakhe iwe panji mwanakazi wakuba kuti wandakholweskeke.”
Naumo banthu bakupangila vibwezi vyanyengo yitali, nthowa zakuthaska nthumbo (izo zikusangika sono) kwa banakazi ndizo zikutoleka ngati zakwenelela kugwiliska ntchito pa kulelera bana, kupumulila pala wanangika panji kubaba mwana wakufwa na kupwelelera bana abo balipo. Banalume bachoko ndibo bakuluta na bawoli babo kuvipatala kuti bakasambile vinandi, banyakhe bakupulika waka kufuma ku banyabo.
Nyengo zinyakhe mphindano zikubapo panthowa izi zakuthaskila nthumbo kwa banakazi. Banalume banandi bakukhumba kuti bawoli babo bapemphenge dankha chizomelezgo kwa ibo pambele bandambe kugwiliska ntchito, ngati naumo mwanakazi munyakhe wakuyowoyera: “Nkhaghanaghana nekha kuti nambe kugwiliska ntchito sindano mwakuti bana bakulenge…Nyengo yati yajumphapo nkhamuphalira ndipo wakati, ‘usange wasanga masuzgo pa ivyo wutimalanenge navyo wekha chifukwa ukaluta pa khumbilo lako.’” Bafumu bangakanizga bawoli babo kugwiliska ntchito nthowa zakulera kopa kuti bangapusikika panji vifukwa vinyakhe, chifukwa wakopa kuti ni viheni kwa bawoli babo ku mphapo.
Nangauli ni banalume pela chala abo bakuleka kukhumba kugwiliska ntchito nthowa zakuthaska nthumbo. Apo dada wa nyumba uyu wali pachithuzi wati wasachizga kuti bachepeske kababiro ka bana pakugwiliska ntchito nthowa zakuthaska nthumbo, muwoli wakhe wakati, “Chiuta wakaninozgela nthena chala.” Mwanalume wakati: “nkhasuzgika chomene mumtima wati wandiphalila ivi ndipo wakambaso kunighanaghanila kuti namba vibwezi kuwalo kweni maghanoghano ghane ghakaba ghakuti tithashike kwendera mu kulera.”
Kudumbiskana na kupulikiskana kukovwira kuthaska nthumbo zambula kunozgekera, “usange mukuleka kupulikana ndipo masuzgo yakwiza.” Kwakuyana na dango bankhazi ba kuchanalume ndibo bakugwiliskika ntchito pakudumbiskana nkhani zamziro pakwelu. Bakubalongozga nthowa zakugonana abo batolana sono, apo banakazi bakumanyiska bafumu babo kuti bana nthumbo kwendera mwa nkhazi. Mwanalume munyakhe wamatata wakazomelezga kuti muwoli wakhe alutilire kugwiliska ntchito sindano pakuthaska nthumbo: Bakamuphalira kuti: “uli na mwana mulwale, usange muwoli wako waba na mwana munyakhe uzamuchita vichi?? Uzamukumuvwira? Uzamubavya mwabi wakuukapo pa nyumba!”
Bankhazi bakulutilira kuba mukhala pakati i pa vidumbilano kweni icho chikutoleka kuba chamazomelezgeko pavidumbilano vyakukhwaskana na kugonana na kubaba pakati pa banthu bakutolana, kweniso vyamziro pakati pa bapapi na bana vikusintha. Mukulu wabo mulala chomene wakabikapo ndemanga wakati: “Na kwiza kwa HIV na Edzi nkhugomezga kuti ntchito zikusintha. Kuyana na dango lauko nkhufuma, yikaba ntchito ya nkhazi, mwakuti chilichose icho nkhukhumba kuyowoya kwa banung’una bane na bawoli babo pankhani zakulera mwakuyezgelera. Ningayowoya pakwelu yayi...[Wakalutilira kuyowoya mwakudandawula kuti] Kweni kwasono mbalinga abo bankhazi babo bachali bamoyo? [wakaseka]”
Mwanalume munyakhe wakudidimizga kuzirwa kwakuyowoya kwa pakweru mu banthu bapanthengwa munyengo izi za HIV: “Usange muli bakufwatukilana vinthu vikwenda makola, kweni kanandi tabanalume tikutemwa kubisa vinthu.” Nadidi mwanakazi munyakhe wakukumbuka: “Mfumu wane wakadankha ndiyo kupimiska ndipo wakaphalilika kuti wali na HIV kweni wakanimanyiska yayi. Pati pajumpha nyengo nkhazakamanya kuti ichi ndicho wakakanilanga kuti tibabe mwana munyakhe, ndipo wakati, ‘pepani ichi ndicho chifukwa.’”
Mpaka sono nthowa zakulera kwa banthu ba panthengwa abo bali na HIV zichali na visuzgo. Ngati ninthowa izi zikugwiliskika ntchito sono, bapanthengwa bakugwiliska ntchito ma kondomu kupatula nyengo iyo mwanakazi wangatolela nthumbo mumwezi. Nthowa iyi pamoza na munkhwala wama ARV vikovwila kuchepeska mwabi wakupasila HIV munthu uyo walije munthengwa panji kupasana kachibungu ako kalikukulungala ku munkhwala wa ARV kwa abo bali kale na HIV. Ngati umo mwanalume munyakhe wakuyowoyela kuti: “ntchakofwa chifukwa mwana wakubabika zuba limoza yayi.” Apo mwanalume munyakhe wakakhumba kubika chigomezgo kwa Chiuta balala bampingo bakamsambizga kuti wavyalenge nipela ma kondomu.
Kukwela kwa mitengo ya vinthu na ukhalilo, na khumbilo lakupa bana wovwili wa sukulu, kukupangiska banyamata kuzikila uko baku ghanaghanila za unandi wabana bakuzakababa. Banalume banyakhe bakalongola khumbilo lakovwila bana babo bose mwakuyana, chinthu icho chingakwaniliskika usange munthu wali na sayizi yiwemi ya unandi wabana. Mwanalume (wakulembeka ntchito uyu) wakuyowoya:
“Pala ndingaba na bana batatu panji banayi ndingamanya kuwapwelelela makola ndipo waliyose wangamanya kuti dada watovwila mwakuyana kwambula kupambaniska pakuyowoya kuti, ‘natondeka kusanga fizi yabana bose mwakuti banyakhe balute ku sukulu banyakhe chala.’ Panyengo yasono umoyo ukupambana. Nyengo zakale banthu bakakhalilanga kulima kweni sono na minda wuwo yikusoba.”
Banalume bakapambaniskanga unandi wabana abo bapapi babo bakaba nabo na unandi wabana abo ibo bakukhumba kuzakaba nabo: “Nkhababika mu chaka cha 1978, tikababika bana 14 kwa dada na mama, ndipo badada bakababaso bana 5 na mwanakazi munyakhe…Nkhukhumba kubaba bana 5 na muwoli wane wakwamba na banyakhe 5 na muwoli wane wachibili.”
Nangauli, fumbani mwanalume kuti kasi mbana balinga abo bakukhala panyumba pakhe ndipo kubelenga kwa bana bakhe ni mphepete yimoza mwa nkhani zakhe. Bana bakwiza na bana abo bazgoka balanda chifukwa cha AIDS nabo bakukhala nabo. Kuyowoya mwachisanisani, mwanalume munyakhe wakati: “Nkhukhumba kuba na bana 4 chifukwa ndibo nkhugomezga kuti babali bane bangafiska kulera usange nafwa.”
Makhumbilo gha bana banalume panji banakazi munthengwa ghangamanya kusinthiska makhumbilo gha kuba nabana “bachoko waka”. Banakazi bakudoka kuba na bana basungwana kweni bana banalume bakupeleka chikhazi kuba nyinabo: “Apo mwana wane munyamata wakababika muwoli wane wakakondwa nakuti ‘najizengela chikaya’ chifukwa mwana uyu ndiyo wakhazikiskenge banyina pakaya nakubazengela nyumba.” Kwa badada baminda yakulima, kuba nabana banalume ntchakuzilwa chomene. Banyamata bakukuzga mtundu na kuhala chikaya cha badada babo. Bakwiza na bakamwana kuzakakhala panyumba abo bakubabaso bazukulu: “Chiuta walikunditumbika na bana banyamata, bana banakazi bazamusangika munthazi usange batola.”
Kabilo ka bana banyamata na basungwana kakukhwaska ‘ma pulani’ agho banthu bapanthengwa panji banthu banyakhe bakubachiska kuti bachite: “Kubabika kwa mwana musungwana wachibili nisuzgo kale kwa bapapi bane. Badada bane bakiza na ng’anga kuti panji yingasintha mphapo yithu. Ng’anga yikati, ‘nkhukhumba mumwe munkhwala uwu mwakuti mubabe mwana mwanalume.’”
Baliska bampingo bakunjilirapo pakupemphelera nyumba izo zili na mtundu umoza wa bana.
Nangauli nyengo zikusintha. Basungwana bakusambila bakuwoneka kuti bali namwabi bakuchita ivyo banalume bakuchita pakovwila bapapi babo abo bakuchekula:
“Mwana wane musungwana wakuti ‘nkhukhumba nisambile’. Wakuti, ‘badada, nizamuwazengela nyumba, nakubagulila galimoto.’ wali namakhumbilo ghawemi!”
“Usange mwana wane wachitatu wababika msungwana nizamsazgilapo wachinayi. Kweni pala bose mbasungwana nizamuchizomelezga. Ndipo program yithu yizamumalila penipapo.”
Mwabi wakuba chumba muyilayila ntchithu chakubinya chomeni kwa banthu abo bakaba na khumbilo lakuchemeka balala na badada, chomenichomeni kwa banalume abo bakhalapo munthengwa zambula bana zakujumpha yimoza:
“Chikuba ngati ntchilonda waka. Mwana ntchithu chakuzilwa chomene munthengwa, cheni chicho chakuti ungagula yayi na ndalama. Mwana wakuzakuvwila pala wachekula na kuhala chilichose pala wafwa.”
“Banthu bakumutola mwanalume kuti wali makola chomeni” pekhapekha pala muwoli wakhe walongola mphapo yakhe kunyakhe. Banalume bakati masuzgo ghakufumila kwa bawoli babo chifukwa cha “Tcheka” panji “kufinyizgika kwa nthowa”. Nthengwa zinandi zambula bana zikuluta kung’anga pambele zindalute kuchipatala. Nangauli, apo banalume na banakazi bakuluta kuchipatala kukapimika kukusangika kuti kuchepa kwa mbuto yawanalume na masuzgo ghanyakhe ghabanalume ghakuzunulika kanandinandi. Kwakuyana na kafukufuku uyo akuchitika pakati pa banthu ba mutauni abo bakwiza na masuzgo gha mphapo mu vipatala vya muchigaba cha kumwera kwa Africa, vikulongola kuti hafu ya banalume bakusangika na suzgo la mphapo.
“Nchakusuzga kuti nichipulikiske kuti chifukwa chavichi banthu banandi bakuti umupate muwoli wako, apo iwe undapimike yayi kuti ujiwone pala uli makola. Ichi chikuzomelezgeka na midawuko ya chitumbuka nangauli ili nisuzgo lichoko.”
Kuchichizgika kwakuti musange zgolo kufuma mumphepete zose zibili kukukula chaka na chaka. Mwanakazi wangatukika na babali bakuchanalume: “Chifukwa uli kukhala apa? Ukuzuzga waka vimbuzi.”
Mwanalume munyakhe wakakumbuka: “Bankhazi bane bakaniphalilanga kuti nifumyepo chakunikhozga soni na kutola mwanakazi munyakhe. Babali bane bakandichemanga ku vidumbilano nakuniphalila kuti muwoli wane wakaba hule wangatola yayi nthumbo chifukwa wakatayanga nthumbo. Babali ba muwoli wane bakamuchemelanga kukwabo na muvyala wane wakamchiskanga muwoli wane kuti wabe nachibwezi mwachisisi. Nkhayowoya kuti ntchiwemi kuti nibavye mwana kuluska kuti ivi vichitike.”
Chifukwa chakuchichizgika nababali bamwanakazi bakapenja wovwili ku ng’anga kweni apo ng’anga yinyakhe yikapempha kuti yigone namuwoli wakhe ndipo yinyakhe yikakhumba kubapa munkhwala wakofya wakazgokela ku mapemphelo. Chipatala chapa boma chikatondeka kuphala masuzgo, ndipo pamanyuma pakhe munyumba iyi mukasangika nthumbo: “Apo mwana wati wababika tikasutuka chomene. Tikababaso mwana munyakhe pati pajumpha vyaka 6. Nibabali bane bose chala abo bakakondwa, panyakhe abo bakaniphalila kuti nimupate muwoli wane wakakhozgeka soni.”
Palivifukwa vinandi ivyo bapanthengwa ngati abo balongosoleka pachanya bangakanila kuchichizgika na banthu kumazga nthengwa mwalubilo panji kukapoka panyakhe kupeleka nthumbo kuwalo. Mkhristu munyakhe wakujipeleka wakati: “Kulikulembeka mu baibolo kuti mwanalume wabe na mwanakazi yumoza.” Banyakhe bakopa kutola HIV: “Ungaba kuti wasanga icho babali bako bapenjanga, pakuti bakakhumbanga mwana, kweni umoyo wako wamala.” Mwanalume munyakhe wakayowoya za masambilo: “Kale pala munthu walije mwana, babali bakatinge chita ichi panji muleka mwanakazi uyu. Usange mwanalume wasambila akuba na mazaza, mwanakaziso nayo nthena. Mungachemeska vidumbilano kweni mazaza ghali na imwe mwabene.”
Palije nthowa zenecho zakukhazikika zakumazga masuzgo gha uchumba kweniso nthowa zakumazgila masuzgo agha nzichoko. Banalume bambula bana bakubikapo mtima chomene pakulera bana bababali babo na bana bamulamu babo. Bana aba bakuchepeska phukwa na ntchito za banakazi pa nyumba. Nanga uli kuleka kuba na mwana umoyo wako wose chikusangika vibi yayi kweni kutondeka kubabaso mwana munyakhe chifukwa cha matenda panji nthimbanizgo izo zikubapo pakubaba, ichi ndicho chichali chakofya.
Ngati umo m’nyamata munyakhe wakayowoyera mwakugomezga kuti chisisi chisungikenge:
“Nichali na wofi chifukwa nkhapulika kuti nthenda ya bilharzia yikunanga mphapo. Mukumanya kuti banakazi bakukhumba bana. Muwoli wamunyane walikuchimbila chifukwa bakabavya mwana. Nkhopa kukhala ndekha (nkhungulume).”
Banalume bakandula naumo bangadokeleka na banakazi, kungaba kupeleka ndalama panji kuvina makola kwa malipenga. Vibwezi vyabo vikapeleka ntchindi, masangulusko, munthu wakuchezga nayo apo balikutali na ku nyumba. Kwa banalume banyakhe vibwezi vikaba ngati nthowa yakuwonela usange bali na mphapo nakuyezga kubaba mwana wankhongono.
Ngati kwa banyamata abo bandatole, nthumbo za kuwalo kwa nthengwa zikupeleka mwabi kwa banyamata aba “kuzomera panji kukana”. Bakuba kuti “banangila malango” gha mdauko panji wunthu. Pala wazomela nthumbo ngati ni wiske wa mwana "wakuchichizgika" kutola mwanakazi panji kulipira mlandu. Icho wasankha chingapangiska kuti mwana wamanye kukwawo kwa wiske na kuchemeka chiwongo chawiske. Kwa banalume awo bali pa nthengwa kutola mitala nizgolo lakutondela nthumbo zambula kunozgekela kweniso chikutoleka ngati nichinthu chiwemi:
“Nkhakhumbanga kuchezga waka nayo [kugona nayo] kumutola yayi. Kweni chifukwa cha ngozi iyo yikachitika tikatolana. Babale wakhe wakiza nayo ndipo nkhamuzomela kuti ni mwanakazi wane nadi chifukwa nkhamanya kuti nthumbo njane. Mbwenu nkhakhala na banakazi babiri.”
M’nthowa yinyakhe mwanalume angakana nthumbo, nangawuli ichi chikung’anamula kuti akukanilathu yayi ntchito ya kovwira mwanakazi:
"Nyengo zinyakhe uko nkhwenda ningasanga chibwezi ndipo usange tingafwatukilana tingagonana kwambula kujivikilira. Chifukwa cha ichi ningamanya kumupa nthumbo usange bapapi bakhe bakwiza kuzakanithulira mbwenu nkhukana. Pala wababa ndipo mwana akula bapapi bakwiza kuzakanipasa mwana. Ndilo ni suzgo la ise banyamata chifukwa tikwenda malo ghanandi chomene.”
Bana bakukanika na bawiskebo bakuleleka na banyinawo pera panji na m’bali wakuchanakazi chifukwa ntchinonono kuti banakazi balute na bana ku nthengwa yasono. Mwana wakukanika wangapasika zina lakuti “Wakumanya,” kung’anamula kuti Chiuta ndiyo wakumanya wiske wa mwana, nangauli wiske walikumukana.
Ndipo ntchito za udada zingachiska mwanalume kuwombola bana abo balikukulira ku chanakazi na kwiza nabo pa nyumba. Mwanalume munyakhe wakandula kuti wakachita ichi kuti wasange chandulo: “Ntchindi zakuti ine ndine dada, nane nili munthu, ndicho chikanipa nkhongono kuti niwombole mwana wane kuti wize pa nyumba. Nkhagomezga kuti mwana wane wangaghanaghana kuti, ‘badada bane bakunikhumba yayi’ agho ni maghanoghano ghaheni.”
Ngati umo dada uyu wakulutilira kwandula kuti kuwombola mwana uyo wakababika apo iye wakaba m’nyamata chikaba chinonono: “Ntchakuti nkhaleka kukhumba chala kweni nkhabavya nthowa pa nyengo iyo. Ntchinonono...usange mwana ababikila kuwalo kwa nthengwa ndipo ni mlandu. Ukwenela kulipa mlandu ndipo na chilelera [ku chanakazi]. Ungalipira zinandi usange bambako kupeleka ndalama zaku sekondale.”
Kupatula kupeleka ndalama ku vibwezi panji kulipa mlandu wanthumbo zakuwalo, banalume bakuzunula mpingo na chitemwa ku bawoli babo ngati vinthu ivyo vikubakanizga kuchita vibwezi. Munyakhe wakandula kuti: “Nkhuwoneseska kuti nkhuleka kuswa malango agho tilikukaka m’nthengwa yithu.”
Banyakhe bakugwiliska ntchito makondomu na vibwezi pakuchepeska chofyo chakupeleka nthumbo na HIV: “Wakanipempha kuti nimovwile pakuvuna, ndipo nkhamusonga. Nangawuli pakabavya chandulo chilichose ndipo nkhopanga kuti wanganitola ngati munthu wawakawaka. Tikugwiliska ntchito makondomu chifukwa cha wofi.”
Banalume banyakhe bakusintha bawoli kuti bafiske "chilato" chabo. Kanandi usange banalume bakusintha banakazi bakusinthaso unandi wa bana abo bakukhumba kubaba,’ nangauli banalume balalako bakulabiska kuba nabana banandi nawofi:
“Nati natolaso, nkhasintha plan yila yakulekela kubaba bana 5 chifukwa vinthu vikawa makola yayi [nthengwa yikamala]...Sono chikawa kuti compass [maghanoghano ghane] yikasintha. Nkhati kuti kasi muwoli wane wasono wangakhala uli kwambula bana? Nkhamufumba muwoli wane wasono ndipo tikapulikana kuti tingababanga kujumpha 4 yayi…nileke kuba na bana 9, mphanji nyumba yane nabika malata kweni ndalama zane zikumalila bana aba.”
Usange banalume na banakazi bakukhumba kuleka kubaba nthowa yenecho yakukanizgila nthumbo yamuyilayila iyo yilipo njakujala mphapo ya mwanakazi. Banakazi bachiwukilano bakugwiliska ntchito nthowa zanyengo yitali zakukanizgila nthumbo ngati umo mwanalume uyu wakayowoyera: “Chingachitika kuti nthengwa naine yingazakamala ndipo wangamanya kukatengwaso namwanalume munyakhe uyo wamukhumba mwana. Sono usange wajala mphapo wamsanga masuzgo.”
Mwanalume wachilala uyo baboli bakhe bakajala mphapo wakati: “Munthengwa zinandi wakujaliska ni mwanakazi malinga pali kupulikana na kugomezgana pakati pinu. Mwanalume wakunjila ‘mundondomeko’ yakuleka kugongoweska muwoli wakhe, kukhala ngati nawe wajaliska…Tikupulika vyakujaliska kwa banalume [vasectomy], kweni tilije khumbo lakujala, panji kunthazi.”
Kusintha kwa umoyo wa banalume, ngati matenda gha mgonezi, ghangamanya kusintha vilato vyabo: “Nkhati namba kulwala nthenda ya shuga [diabetes] chikaba chipusu kuti nighanaghane kuti naumo thupi lane labila ningagwila yayi ngati umo nkhagwililanga kale, ipo ningamanya kusazgilaso mwana yayi.”
Banalume banandi bakusambizga banyabo kuti, baleke vyakubaba apo bachali na vinjelu vyakuti bangagabilaso bana!
“Uleke kughanaghana kuti usange wababaso mwana munyakhe nikuti masuzgo ghamwana wakwamba ghamala, kweni ghakulutilila. Pali banyakhe abo bali navyaka 60 panji 70 abo bali nabana bachoko ndipo bana abo bakukhumba ulongozgi kweni panyengo iyo ungasanga kuti mwanalume vinjelu vyakhila.”
Udada kuti ni mphapo pela chala. Kuyowoya unenesko "kumalizga makola" ngati dada ukwenela kupeleka vinjelu na wovwili wandalama kwa bana. Chifukwa cha wovwili uwo bana bakukhumba badada abo bali na HIV bakuyezeska kupenja wovwili wa munkhwala wa ARV: “Madazi agha nkhugwila ntchito makola. Chikutolela muwoli wane kuti wati ‘bikani jembe pasi!’ nkhukhumba nibike malata panyumba yane mwakuti mwana wane pala wakula wazakakhale munyumba yiweme.”
Banalume abo batondeka chifukwa chamatenda gha m’gonezi panji baluta kukapenja ntchito bakugongoweska abo bagomezganga kuvwilika na ibo. Nangauli udada chikung’anamula munthu wakubaba pela chala, udada wukugabika mu babali bose banalume. Kufuma ku chanalume, mwana wangamanya kuvwilika panji kukhala nabadada banyakhe, basibweni, bakulu bakhe na banyakhe, pala badada bakhe bakumubaba batondeka "kufiska".
Kayowoyero ka ku badada basono kakuti, "waba mulala sono" vikulongola umo banthu bakuzirwiskila kuba dada. Nanga uli kuba dada na mulala ku mizi ya kumpoto kwa Malawi ntchinthu cha nyengo yitali na chakukondweleska. Ulendo wa banalume kufuma ku unyamata kukafika ku ulala ngwa nthowa zakupambana pambana; kwa bachiwukilano banyakhe nthumbo na nthengwa vikubachichizga kuti bakule, kwa banyakhe masambilo na ntchito vikubapa mazaza na ntchito yakupwelera bana mu nyumba zabo zakusazgikilapo. Kuba dada na mulala vikung’anamula vinthu vyakupambana pambana mazuba agha. Chingaba kujipwelelera umoyo wabo mwakuti bamalizge program yabo, kuluta ku sikelo ya nthumbo panji kusanga nthowa zakukanizgira nthumbo panji kusanga wovwili wa mphapo pamoza na bakutemweka babo.
Kusintha uku pachoko kwachitika chifukwa cha HIV, ngati umo ine nkhumanyila, masambilo, visambizgo vya mukaya na kukwela kwa wovwiri vyavwira nthowa zose zabanalume pa ulendo wakubaba. Banyamata mbakunweka kujithaska ibo bekha na nyumba zabo kumatenda. Bapanthengwa abo bakulutilira kupimiska HIV pamoza na bakutemweka babo kulongola kujipeleka. Pambere ma ARV ghandazale chomene mu boma la Karonga mu 2006, ba ntchito za umoyo, babali bamoyo, na abo balikufwa abo bakuwoneka mumaloto bakagongoweskanga banalume na banakazi abo bali na HIV kuba na bana. Mazuba ghano kuba na HIV chikung’anamula kuti ni umaliro wa umoyo panji mphapo chala, kweni banalume banyakhe wakusankha kukhala kwambula bana wakusazgilapo. Mwanalume munyakhe wakadidimizga kuzirwa kwa kupwelelera lumoza pakati pa iye na muwoli wakhe “kwambula kusazgilapo masuzgo ghanyakhe pa nyumba”.
Kuba dada ntchinthu chakufiskika na munthu yumoza pela chala, kwali mwanalume walina banakazi 5 panji bakukhala vyaka makhumi na kachibwezi kakuwana uchoko. Mwachiyelezgelo kunweka kwa banakazi kupwelera banung’una ba mwanalume na baphwa vikovwila kupangiska kuti bakwaniske ntchito za udada apo babali wakovwila kupeleka chuma kuti mwanalume wabe na mazaza pa bana. Usange kuba dada ni chinthu chakufiskika na munthu yumoza pela chala mwantheula ntchakuti banalume baleke kuchita mwachisisi panji pabekha. Ngati umo mwanalume munyakhe wakachenjezgera: “Ukwenela kumuphalira muwoli wako, ‘nili mwanalume nangauli nkhukufwatukila nthena. Nkhukhumba waka kuti uthaske umoyo wako na wane. Usange iwe wasuzgika nikuti nane nasuzgika.”
Kulera ni nthowa yimoza iyo yikuzilwiska unenesko na kupulikana pakati pa bapanthengwa, ngati umo mwanalume munyakhe wakayowoyela: “Mukudumbilana kuti mungaba nabana balinga. Nyengo zinyakhe mwanalume wangaba makola kweni mwanakazi wangawona kuti wali makola yayi muthupi, sono mwanalume wakwenela kupulikiska kuti tilekele apa panji tilindizge. Kwambula kupulikana mungasanga kuti muli nabana 10! Ichi chikachitikanga kale. Banthu bakatenge bana ndi chuma ndipo bakakhumbanga bana banandi, kweni nyengo yila mwanakazi wakabavya mazaza.”
Pakupwelelela umoyo wabo nakugwiliska ntchito nthowa zakulela banalume bakukhazga kuzakaba basekulu. Mwanalume uyu wali pachithuzi kumazele wakati, “Bazukulu bakwenela kukusanga apo uchali nankhongono.” Kweni mbapanthengwa pela yayi abo bali na ntchito iyi. Wovwili wa zaumoyo ukwenela kubapo na kuba pafupi. Kwamba kale banalume bakutolapo lwande mwankhongono yayi pankhani zakubaba na zaumoyo wa bana. Nangawuli, wovwili wamba kukula na kuwona ntchito zaumoyo izo zikukhumbikwa kwa banalume na ivyo bangachita paumoza wabo na udada, ivyo vikupambana kwakuyana na malo na msinkhu:
“Ntchakuzilwa kuti bose mufumu na muwoli basange wovwili pamoza. Kweni nkhuwonapo suzgo lililose yayi pala mufumu panji muwoli bangasanga wovwili pabekha pabekha chifukwa chakuzilwa niwovwili [wakaseka].”
Pali banthu banandi bakupambana pambana abo banalume bakubayowoya kuba namazaza chomene chomene mumasuzgo panyengo zakubaba, kwamba ku wabwezi na babali mpaka ku ng’anga na balala ba mipingo. Banalume banandi bakugwiliska ntchito mazgo gha mu bayibolo pakususka ntchito zabo pamakani ghakubaba ngati kubapo pakubaba, kulongola kuzilwa kwa chigomezgo - muchigaba cha banthu banandi abo mbachi khirisitu. Sono chikhirisitu, machitilo gha mkaya na munkhwala wamuvipatala vyose vikulongola kuzilwa kwa kutolapo lwande kwa banalume paumoyo wakubaba, nyengo zinyakhe vikuvwilana nyengo zinyakhe mwakususkana.
Banalume bakuchema badada babo panji basekulu babo pala bakumana na masuzgo pa mawulendo ghabo ghakubaba. Mukafukufuku withu yose banalume bakakumbukilanga milimo ya badada babo na viwongo panji mwakugongowa, apo sono banachigomezgo kuti bana babo bazamubakumbukila na ntchindi izo bakukhumba.


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YAKAMUCISYA MAŴASA | KULELA ŴANACE
Ŵalondecesyeje Cenene Ŵanace Ŵawo Pakwamba Yagonana
YAKUSAWUSYA YAYIPALI
Yaka yipite pacangakaŵapa, acinangolo ni ŵaŵaliji ŵandanda kwasalila ŵanace ŵawo pakwamba yagonana kuti ayimanyilileje cenene. Nambosoni ŵasalilaga yindu mwakamulana ni msingu wa ŵanacewo.
Moŵa agano yeleyi yicenjile mnope. Buku jine jatite, “Ŵanace akusatanda kumanyilila yakwamba kugonana mnopemnope ali ŵacinandipile, soni mafidiyo gakulosya ŵandu ali mgonana ni ŵanace gakutupilatupila.” (The Lolita Effect) Ana yindu yeleyi mpaka yakamucisye ŵanace kapena kwawulasya?
YAKUSOSEKWA KUYIMANYILILA
Yakuŵagula yili palipose. Jwamkongwe jwine lina lyakwe Deborah Roffman jwalembile m’buku jakwe kuti “yakusaŵecetana ŵandu, yamalonda, m’mafilimu, m’mabuku, mu nyimbo, m’mapologalamu ga pa TV, m’mautenga, m’mang’asi, soni m’yikwangwani mugumbele ni yiwulili soni maloŵe gakuŵagula. Nambosoni ŵandu ŵane akusanonyela kuŵika yakuŵagulayi m’mafoni, ni m’makompyuta. Yeleyi yikusatendekasya ŵanace ganisya kuti gonana . . . kuli kwakusosekwa mnope kupunda cilicose.”—Talk to Me First.
Ŵamalonda akujigala nawo mbali. Jemanjaji akusasumisya yakuwala ya ŵanace yakulimbikasya gonana, yayili mpela kwalondecesya ŵanace yagonana m’litala lyangaŵajilwa. Buku jine jasasile kuti, “Ŵamalonda akusamanyilila kuti ŵanace akusasacilila kola yindu yakulandana ni ya acimjawo. Yeleyi yikusapa upile wakupanganya yindu yakwakopa ŵanacewo.” Bukuji jasasilesoni kuti, “Cakulinga ca ŵamalondaŵa ngaŵa kwajiganya ŵanace yagonana” nambo “cili kwatendekasya kuti asumeje yindu yasambano.”—So Sexy So Soon.
Akamulicisyeje masengo yalijiganyisye. Kumanyilila yayikusatendekwa kuti galimoto jijende kuli kwakulekangana ni kujijendesya cenene. M’yoyosoni mundu jwakusagamba kumanyilila yagonana ali jwakulekangana ni mundu jwakusayimanyilila cenene ni kombola kusagula kutenda yakuŵajilwa.
Songa jakusosekwa mnope: Moŵa agano, kupunda ni kala kose, akusosekwa kwakamucisya ŵanace ŵawo kwiganya ‘macili gawo gakumanyilila’ kuti akomboleje ‘kulekanganya cambone ni cakusakala.’—Ahebeli 5:14.
YAKUSOSEKWA KUTENDA
Ŵakamucisyeje ŵanace ŵawo. Mwangasamala kandu kuti mpaka yiŵe yakutesya sooni, nambo kwalondecesya ŵanace ŵawo pakwamba yagonana uli ukumu wawo.—Lilemba lyakamucisya: Miyambo 22:6.
Akamsalilaga yindu yejinji pandaŵi jimo. M’malo mwakumsalila mwanace jwawo yosope yakwamba gonana ndaŵi jimo, mpaka apatileje upile wakumsalila panandipanandi pakwenda yimpepe kapena pakukamula masengo ga pamlango. Pakusaka kumkamucisya mwanace jwawo, am’wusyeje yiwusyo yakumtendekasya kusala nganisyo syakwe. Mwambone, pakwenda najo naga akumsimonga kuti akulolecesya yikwangwani yakola yiwulili yangaŵajilwa, akam’wusyaga kuti, “Ligongo cici m’mweji mkusakola lung’wanu mnope ni yindu mpela yeleyi?” M’malo mwakwe am’wusyeje kuti, “Mkuganisya kuti ligongo cici ŵamalondaŵa akusanonyela kamulicisya masengo yindu mpela yeleyi?” Pambesi pakwanga ciwusyoci, mpaka am’wusyesoni kuti, “Nambi m‘mwejo mkuganisya wuli?” —Lilemba lyakamucisya: Deuteronomo 6:6, 7.
Amsalileje yindu mwakamulana ni msingu wakwe. Acinangolo mpaka ŵasalileje ŵanace ŵawo ŵanganatande sukulu mena ga yiŵalo yosope ya pacilu cawo. Nambosoni mpaka ŵasalileje yakusosekwa kutenda kuti alicenjele kwa ŵandu ŵampaka ŵatende yacipongwe. Pakukula, mpaka ŵasalilesoni masengo ga yiŵalo yakusisika. Pakwikanaga kuti amasile msingu, aŵeje ali mkupikanicisya yosope pakwamba yagonana.
Atandeje ni kwajiganya ndamo syambone. Atandeje kumjiganya mwanace ali jwacinandipile ndamo syambone mpela kulupicika, kuŵa jwacilungamo, soni kucimbicisya. Yeleyi, yicakamucisya wawojo kuti atagulilane najo mwagopoka ngani syakwayana ni gonana. Ŵasalileje mwangasisa yakusayiwona kuti yili yakuŵajilwa. Mwambone, mpaka ŵasalile ŵanace ŵawo kuti gonana mkanajinjile mwiŵasa kuli kwakulemweceka. Mpaka ŵasalilesoni ligongo lyakwe kuli kwakulemweceka soni kwakuwulasya. Buku jine jasasile kuti, “Kwa ŵacinyamata ŵakusamanyilila kuti acinangolo ŵawo ŵangasaka kuti ŵacinyamata atendeje yagonana, yikusaŵa yakusawusya kuti atende yagonanayo.”—Beyond the Big Talk.
Aŵeje cisyasyo kwa ŵanace ŵawo. Atendeje yindu yakamulana ni ndamo syakwajiganya ŵanacewo. Mwambone, ana akusasangalala ni ngwelegulo syakutukana, kuwala mwangaŵajilwa, kapena kwakopa ŵane? Kutenda yeleyi mpaka kujonanje ndamo syambone syakusiŵajiganya ŵanace ŵawo.—Lilemba lyakamucisya: Aloma 2:21.
Amsalileje umbone wakwe. Kugonana uli mtuka wakutyocela kwa Mlungu, soni mpaka kuŵe kwakusangalasya naga kukutendekwa kwa ŵandu ŵali paulombelape. (Miyambo 5:18, 19) Amkamucisye mwanace jwawo kumanyilila kuti jiciyika ndaŵi jakuti nombe najo cacisangalala ni mtukawu.—1 Timoteo 1:18, 19.

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Uthenga Wamampha Wakutuliya Kwaku Chiuta
Kumbi uthenga wamampha wakutuliya kwaku Chiuta ndi nuwu? Nchifukwa wuli titenere kuwugomezga? Kabuku yaka kamuka mafumbu nganyaki nga m’Bayibolu.
Mo Kabuku Yaka Kangakuwovyiyani
Kabuku yaka kangakuwovyani kusambira fundu za mu Mazu Ngaku Chiuta, Bayibolu. Wonani mo mungagwiriskiya ntchitu Bayibolu linu kuti musaniyi malemba.
Kumbi Uthenga Wamampha ndi Nuwu?
Ziŵani uthenga wamampha wakutuliya kwaku Chiuta, chifukwa cho ngwakukhumbika ndipuso vo mutenere kuchita.
Kumbi Chiuta Ndiyani?
Kumbi Chiuta we ndi zina nanga watitiŵanaŵaniya?
Kumbi Uthenga Wamampha Ukutuliya Nadi Kwaku Chiuta?
Kumbi tingasimikizga wuli kuti Bayibolu ndauneneska?
Kumbi Yesu Khristu Ndiyani?
Ziŵani chifukwa cho Yesu wangufwiya, vo uwombozi ung’anamuwa ndipuso vo Yesu wachita sonu.
Khumbu Laku Chiuta la Charu Chapasi
Bayibolu likonkhoska chifukwa cho Chiuta wakulenge charu chapasi, nyengu yo masuzgu ngazamumaliya ndipuso vinthu vo vazamuchitikiya ŵanthu wo azamuja pacharu chapasi munthazi.
Kumbi Akufwa Tazakuŵawona so?
Kumbi nchinthu wuli cho chichitika asani tafwa? Kumbi abali ŵidu wo akufwa tazakuŵawona so?
Kumbi Ufumu Waku Chiuta Nchinthu Wuli?
Kumbi Fumu ya Ufumu waku Chiuta ndiyani, nanga Ufumu waku Chiuta wazamuchitanji?
Kumbi Chiuta Wazomerezgiyanji Vinthu Viheni ndi Masuzgu?
Kumbi masuzgu ngakwamba wuli nanga nchifukwa wuli Chiuta wangazomerezga kuti ngalutiriyi mpaka sonu? Kumbi masuzgu ngazamumala?
Vo Mungachita Kuti Banja Linu Lije Lalikondwa
Yehova, Chiuta walikondwa, wakhumba kuti mabanja ngajengi mwalikondwa. Saniyani ulongozgi wakovya wa m’Bayibolu wakuluta kwa anthurumi, anthukazi, apapi ndipuso ŵana.
Kumbi Chisopa Chauneneska Mungachiziŵa Wuli?
Kumbi chisopa chauneneska chilipu chimoza pe? Wonani vinthu 5 vo vilongo chisopa chauneneska.
Kumbi Marangu Ngaku Chiuta Ngatitiwovya Wuli?
Yesu wangukonkhoska chifukwa cho titenere kulunguchizgika ndipuso wangukamba fundu ziŵi za m’Bayibolu zo zingatiwovya.
Kumbi Mungaja Wuli pa Ubwezi ndi Chiuta?
Ziŵani asani Chiuta watuvwa marombu ngosi, mo tingarombe kweniso vo tingachita kuti tije pa ubwezi ndi Chiuta.
Nchinthu Wuli Cho Chazamuchitikiya Visopa?
Kumbi yazamuŵapu nyengu yo ŵanthu wosi azamusopa Chiuta yumoza pe mwakukoliyana?
Nchifukwa Wuli Chiuta We Ndi Gulu Mazuŵa Nganu?
Bayibolu lititikambiya chifukwa cho Chiuta wakhusankhiya kuja ndi gulu kweniso mo litendese vinthu.
Lutirizgani Kusambira Vakukwaskana ndi Yehova
Kumbi ŵanthu anyaki angayanduwa wuli asani imwi mwaziŵa Chiuta? Kumbi mungaja pa ubwezi wa mtundu wuli ndi Chiuta?


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SAMBIRO 6
Kasi Awo Ŵali Kufwa Mbwenu Kuli Kumara?
1. Kasi uthenga uwemi pa nkhani ya ŵakufwa ngwakuti wuli?
Apo Yesu wakafikanga ku Betaniya, pakaŵa kuti pajumpha mazuŵa ghanayi kufuma apo mubwezi wake Lazaro wakafwira. Yesu wakaluta ku dindi pamoza na Marita na Mariya, ŵadumbu ŵa Lazaro. Nyengo yichoko waka, kukiza mzinda ukuru. Kasi mukughanaghana kuti Marita na Mariya ŵakakondwa yayi kuti Yesu wakawuska Lazaro?—Ŵazgani Yohane 11:21-24, 38-44.
Marita wakamanyanga uthenga uwemi wakuti Yehova wazamuwuska ŵakufwa ku malaro, ndipo ŵazamuŵaso ŵamoyo pa charu chapasi.—Ŵazgani Job 14:14, 15.
2. Kasi para munthu wafwa wakuŵa wuli?
Ŵanthu ŵakafuma ku fuvu. (Genesis 2:7; 3:19) Ndise mizimu iyo yikuvwara waka thupi yayi. Kweni tili ŵanthu ŵathupi, ndipo para tafwa, palije icho chikukhalako. Para tafwa, wongo nawo ukufwa, ndipo tikuleka kughanaghana. Lekani Lazaro wakayowoyapo chilichose yayi icho chikamuchitikira uko wakaŵa. Palije icho wakamanyanga.—Ŵazgani Salmo 146:4; Mupharazgi 9:5, 6, 10.
Kasi Chiuta wakotcha ŵanthu para ŵafwa? Baibolo likuti ŵakufwa ŵakumanya kanthu chara. Ntheura awo ŵakusambizga kuti Chiuta wakuyuzga ŵanthu mu moto mbatesi, ndipo ŵakumunangira waka zina. Nakuti Chiuta wakutinkha chomene kotcha ŵanthu.—Ŵazgani Yeremiya 7:31.
3. Kasi ŵakufwa ŵangayowoya nase?
Ŵakufwa ŵakuyowoya yayi, nesi kupulika. (Salmo 115:17) Kweni ŵangelo ŵanyake mbaheni, ndipo nyengo zinyake ŵakuyowoya na ŵanthu. Ŵakujizgora nga mbanthu awo ŵali kufwa kale. (2 Petrosi 2:4) Yehova wakukana kuti tiyezgenge kuyowoya na ŵakufwa.—Ŵazgani Duteronome 18:10, 11.
4. Kasi mbanjani ŵazamuwuskika?
Ŵanthu ŵanandi chomene awo ŵali mu malaro ŵazamuwuka na kuŵaso ŵamoyo pa charu chapasi. Nanga ni awo ŵakaŵavya mwaŵi wa kumanya Chiuta ndipo ŵakachitanga viheni, nawo ŵazamuwuskika.—Ŵazgani Luka 23:43; Milimo 24:15.
Ŵanthu awo ŵazamuwuka ŵazamupika mwaŵi kuti ŵamanye Chiuta na kupulikira Yesu, kulongora kuti ŵali na chipulikano mwa iyo. (Uvumbuzi 20:11-13) Awo ŵazamuwuka na kuchita milimo yiwemi, ŵazamukhala pa charu chapasi kwamuyirayira.—Ŵazgani Yohane 5:28, 29.
5. Kasi chiwuka chikutiphalirachi za Yehova?
Kuti chiwuka chiŵeko, Chiuta wakatuma Mwana wake kuzakatifwira. Ichi chikulongora kuti Yehova wakutitemwa chomene, kweniso wakutilengera lusungu. Para ŵakufwa ŵakuzakawuka, imwe mungatemwa kuzakawona njani chomenechomene?—Ŵazgani Yohane 3:16; Ŵaroma 6:23.
Manyani Vinandi
Kasi Baibolo Likusambizgachi Chomenechomene?
Kasi Ŵakufwa Ŵali Nkhu?
Sambirani ivyo Baibolo likuyowoya pa nkhani ya uko kuli ŵakufwa kweniso chifukwa icho ŵanthu ŵakufwira.
Kasi Baibolo Likusambizgachi Chomenechomene?
Kasi Ŵakutemweka Ŵinu Awo Ŵali Kufwa Ŵazamuwuka?
Kasi ŵakutemweka ŵinu ŵali kufwa? Kasi vingachitika kuti muzakaŵawoneso? Sambirani vinandi chifukwa Baibolo likusambizga kuti ŵakufwa ŵazamuwuka.
Kasi Baibolo Likusambizgachi Chomenechomene?
Kasi Vilengiwa Vyauzimu Vikuchita Nase Wuli?
Baibolo likuyowoyapo za ŵangelo na viŵanda. Kasi vilengiwa vyauzimu viliko nadi? Kasi vingamovwirani


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NA. 5 2016 Kumbi Ndiyani Yo Wangatipembuzga?
Akaboni aku Yehova—Kumbi Ndisi Ayani?
Tituliya m’mitundu yakupambanapambana kweniso tilongolo vineneru vakupambanapambana, kweni te akukoliyana chifukwa chakuti te ndi chilatu chimoza. Kweniso tikhumba kuthamika Yehova, Chiuta yo wakulemba Bayibolu kweniso wakulenga vinthu vosi. Tiyesesa kuchita vinthu nge Yesu Khristu ndipu tikondwa kuziŵika kuti Akhristu. Kaboni waku Yehova weyosi watesesa kupatuwa nyengu yaki kuti wawovyi ŵanthu kuti aliziŵi umampha Bayibolu ndipuso Ufumu waku Chiuta. Chifukwa chakuti tichitiya ukaboni pamwenga kuti tipharazga vakukwaskana ndi Yehova Chiuta ndi Ufumu waki, tiziŵika kuti Akaboni aku Yehova.
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Kasi Mungatemwa Kumanya Unenesko?
UNENESKO wa vichi? Wakuti mumanye mazgoro gha mafumbo ghakuzirwa agho ŵanthu ŵakufumba. Mutepanji namwe mulikujifumbapo mafumbo agha:
Kasi Chiuta wakutipwelelera nadi?
Kasi nkhondo na kusuzgika vimalenge?
Kasi ntchivichi chikuchitika para munthu wafwa?
Kasi pali chilindizga chilichose cha ŵakufwa?
Ni mwawuli umo ningalombera kuti Chiuta wapulike malurombo ghane?
Ni mwawuli umo ningaŵira wakukondwa na umoyo wane?
Kasi mazgoro gha mafumbo agha mungaghasanga nkhu? Usange mungafumba ŵanthu ŵakupambanapambana, ŵapelekenge mazgoro ghakupambanapambana. Nanga mungafumba ŵanthu awo ŵakutemwa kusopa panji ŵaliska ŵa visopa, nawoso ŵamuzgoraninge mwakupambanapambana. Pa nyengo yasono ghanyake mwa mazgoro ghawo ghangawoneka ngati ngakwenelera, kweni para pajumpha nyengo yichoko waka, ghakuŵa ghambura kwenelera.
Kweni pali buku limoza ilo liri na mazgoro ghakugomezgeka. Buku ili likuyowoya unenesko wekhawekha. Pakulomba kwa Chiuta, Yesu wakati: “Mazgu ghinu mbunenesko.” (Yohane 17:17) Baibolo Lakupatulika ndilo ni mazgu ghaunenesko. Mu mapeji ghakulondezgapo agha muwonenge makora kuti Baibolo liri na mazgoro gha mafumbo agho ghali pachanya apa.
Kasi Chiuta Wakutipwelelera Nadi?
CHIFUKWA ICHO ŴANTHU ŴAKUFUMBIRA FUMBO ILI: Tikukhala mu charu icho ntchakuzara na nkhaza, ndiposo ŵanthu ŵanandi ŵakuchita vinthu mwambura urunji. Visopa vinyake vikusambizga kuti ni khumbo la Chiuta kuti taŵanthu tisuzgikenge.
IVYO BAIBOLO LIKUSAMBIZGA: Chiuta ndiyo wakuchitiska vinthu viheni yayi. Lemba la Yobu 34:10 likuti: “Chiuta waunenesko wangachita uheni chara. Wankhongonozose wangachita kwananga chara.” Chiuta wakukhumba kuti wachitire ŵanthu vinthu viwemi chomene. Ndicho chifukwa chake Yesu wakatisambizga kulomba kuti: “Adada ŵithu imwe muli kuchanya, . . . Ufumu winu wize. Khumbo linu lichitike pano pasi, nga nkhuchanya.” (Mateyu 6:9, 10) Chiuta wakutipwelelera chomene, ndipo ngwakukhumbisiska kuti wafiske chilato chake.—Yohane 3:16.
Wonaniso Genizesi 1:26-28; Yakobe 1:13 na 1 Petrosi 5:6, 7.
Kasi Nkhondo na Kusuzgika Vimalenge?
CHIFUKWA ICHO ŴANTHU ŴAKUFUMBIRA FUMBO ILI: Ŵanthu ŵanandi ŵakufwa chifukwa cha nkhondo. Tose tikukwenyelera chifukwa cha masuzgo agho tikukumana nagho.
IVYO BAIBOLO LIKUSAMBIZGA: Chiuta walikuŵikirathu nyengo apo wazamwiziskira mtende pa charu chose chapasi. Para Ufumu wa Chiuta wiza pa charu chapasi, ŵanthu ‘ŵazamusambiraso nkhondo yayi.’ M’malo mwake, “ŵazamuskana malupanga ghawo ghazgoke vyakulimira.” (Yesaya 2:4) Chiuta wazamumazga vinthu vyambura urunji vyose ivyo vikuchitika, ndiposo wazamumazga masuzgo ghose. Baibolo likulayizga kuti: “[Chiuta] wazamufyura masozi ghose ku maso ghawo, ndipo nyifwa yizamuŵakoso yayi. Kuzamuŵavya kutengera panji kulira, kutampha nesi vyakuŵinya. Vinthu vyakale vyafumapo.”—Chivumbuzi 21:3, 4.
Wonaniso Salimo 37:10, 11; 46:9 na Mika 4:1-4.
Kasi Ntchivichi Chikuchitika Para Munthu Wafwa?
CHIFUKWA ICHO ŴANTHU ŴAKUFUMBIRA FUMBO ILI: Visopa vinandi vikusambizga kuti munthu wali na mzimu uwo ukulutilira kuŵa wamoyo para munthu wafwa. Ŵanthu ŵa visopa vinyake ŵakugomezga kuti mizimu ya ŵakufwa yingapweteka panji kuwovwira ŵanthu ŵamoyo. Ŵanyake ŵakugomezga kuti Chiuta wakulanga ŵanthu awo ŵakachitanga uheni mwa kuŵaponya mu moto uwo ukugolera kwamuyirayira.
IVYO BAIBOLO LIKUSAMBIZGA: Para munthu wafwa, wakuleka kuŵako. Lemba la Mupharazgi 9:5 likuti: “Ŵakufwa ŵakumanya kalikose chara.” Pakuti ŵakufwa ŵakumanya chilichose yayi, ndiposo ŵakupulika chilichose yayi, ipo iwo ŵangapweteka panji kovwira ŵanthu ŵamoyo yayi.—Salimo 146:3, 4.
Wonaniso Genizesi 3:19 na Mupharazgi 9:6, 10.
Kasi Pali Chilindizga Chilichose cha Ŵakufwa?
CHIFUKWA ICHO ŴANTHU ŴAKUFUMBIRA FUMBO ILI: Tikukhumba kuŵa ŵamoyo, ndiposo kusangwa na awo tikuŵatemwa. Ntchakawiro kukhumba kuzakawonanaso na ŵakutemweka ŵithu awo ŵali kufwa.
IVYO BAIBOLO LIKUSAMBIZGA: Ŵanandi mwa ŵanthu awo ŵali kufwa ŵazamuwuskika. Yesu wakalayizga kuti “awo ŵali mu madindi ŵazamupulika mazgu ghake na kufumira kuwaro.” (Yohane 5:28, 29) Mwakuyana na khumbo lakudanga la Chiuta, awo ŵazamuwuskika ŵazamuŵa na mwaŵi wa kukhala mu paradiso pano pa charu chapasi. (Luka 23:43) Layizgo ili likulongora kuti ŵanthu ŵakupulikira ŵazamukhala na umoyo wamuyirayira, ndiposo uwemi. Baibolo likuti: “Ŵarunji ŵazamuhara charu chapasi, ndipo ŵazamukhala mwenemumo muyirayira.”—Salimo 37:29.
Wonaniso Yobu 14:14, 15; Luka 7:11-17 na Milimo 24:15.
Ni Mwawuli Umo Ningalombera Kuti Chiuta Wapulike Malurombo Ghane?
CHIFUKWA ICHO ŴANTHU ŴAKUFUMBIRA FUMBO ILI: Pafupifupi mu visopa vyose ŵanthu ŵakulomba. Nangauli ŵakulomba, ŵanandi ŵakujipulika kuti malurombo ghawo ghakuzgoreka yayi.
IVYO BAIBOLO LIKUSAMBIZGA: Yesu wakatisambizga kuti tileke kuwerezga malurombo mwachizgoŵi waka. Iyo wakati: “Para ukulomba, ungayowoyanga vinthu vimoza pera mwakuwerezgawerezga chara.” (Mateyu 6:7) Para tikukhumba kuti Chiuta wapulike malurombo ghithu, tikwenera kulomba mwakuyana na umo iyo wakukhumbira. Kuti tichite nthena, tikwenera kusambira khumbo la Chiuta, na kulomba mwakuyana na khumbo lake. Lemba la 1 Yohane 5:14 likuti: “Kanthu kalikose ako tingalomba mwakuyana na khumbo lake, wakutipulika.”
Wonaniso Salimo 65:2; Yohane 14:6, 14 na 1 Yohane 3:22.
Ni Mwawuli Umo Ningaŵira Wakukondwa na Umoyo Wane?
CHIFUKWA ICHO ŴANTHU ŴAKUFUMBIRA FUMBO ILI: Ŵanthu ŵanandi ŵakugomezga kuti ndalama, kumanyikwa chomene, na kuŵa wakutowa vikupangiska munthu kuŵa wakukondwa. Antheura, ŵakufukafuka chomene kuti ŵasange vinthu ivi, kweni ŵakukondwa yayi.
IVYO BAIBOLO LIKUSAMBIZGA: Yesu wakayowoya icho chingapangiska munthu kuti waŵe wakukondwa. Iyo wakati: “Mbakukondwa awo ŵakumanya kuti ŵali na njara yauzimu, pakuti Ufumu wakuchanya ngwawo.” (Mateyu 5:3) Tingaŵa ŵakukondwa pekha para takhorweska njara yithu yauzimu mwakuti timumanye makora Chiuta, ndiposo kumanya ivyo wakukhumba kutichitira. Unenesko uwu ukusangika mu Baibolo. Kumanya unenesko uwu kungatovwira kuti timanye icho ntchakuzirwa, ndiposo icho ntchambura kuzirwa. Para tingalondezga ulongozgi wa m’Baibolo pakuchita ivyo tikukhumba, tiŵenge ŵakukondwa chomene.—Luka 11:28.
Wonaniso Zintharika 3:5, 6, 13-18 na 1 Timote 6:9, 10.
Tawona umo Baibolo lazgolera mafumbo ghankhondi na limoza agha. Kasi mungatemwa kuti mumanye vinandi? Usange namwe muli “na njara yauzimu,” tikukayika yayi kuti mukukhumba kumanya vinandi. Mutepanji namwe mukujifumba kuti: ‘Usange Chiuta wakutipwelelera, ntchifukwa wuli wali kuzomerezga kuti vinthu viheni na masuzgo vichitikenge? Kasi ningachita wuli kuti umoyo wa mbumba yane uŵe uwemi?’ Baibolo likuzgora makora chomene mafumbo agha, pamoza na ghanyake ghanandi.
Nangauli Baibolo likuzgora mafumbo ghanandi, kweni ŵanthu ŵanandi ŵakunweka yayi kuti ŵaŵazgenge Baibolo. Iwo ŵakuwona Baibolo nga ni buku likuru chomene ilo ndakusuzga kulipulikiska. Kasi mungatemwa kuti munthu munyake wamovwirani kusanga mazgoro mu Baibolo? Ŵakaboni ŵa Yehova ŵali na nthowa ziŵiri izo ŵangamovwilirani.
Nthowa yakwamba ni kusambira buku la mutu wakuti, Kasi Baibolo Likusambizgachi Chomenechomene? Buku ili liri kulembeka kuti lovwire nanga ni awo mbakutangwanika kuti ŵasange mazgoro gha mafumbo ghakuzirwa chomene mu Baibolo. Nthowa yachiŵiri ni sambiro la Baibolo la pa nyumba. Yumoza wa Ŵakaboni ŵa Yehova ngwakunozgeka kumusambizgani. Iyo wangiza ku nyumba kwinu kuti mudumbiskanenge Baibolo sabata yiliyose pa nyengo iyo imwe mwakhumbira. Ŵanthu mamiliyoni ghanandi ŵasanga chandulo chifukwa cha kusambira Baibolo na Ŵakaboni ŵa Yehova. Ŵanthu ŵanandi ŵayowoya kuti: “Nasanga unenesko!”
Kulije kunyake uko munthu wangasanga unenesko. Unenesko wa mu Baibolo ukutifwatura ku vibizi, utimbanizgi, ndiposo wofi wambura kwenelera. Kweniso, unenesko wa mu Baibolo ukutipa chilindizga, ndiposo tikuŵa ŵakukondwa. Yesu wakati: “Mumanyenge unenesko, ndipo unenesko umufwaturaninge.”—Yohane 8:32.
Manyani Vinandi
KUSAMBIRA BAIBOLO
Chifukwa Wuli Mukwenera Kusambira Baibolo?
Baibolo likuzgora mafumbo ghakuzirwa gha ŵanthu ŵanandi pa charu chose. Kasi mukukhumba kuti mafumbo ghinu ghazgoreke?
MAFUMBO AGHO BAIBOLO LIKUZGORA
Kasi Chiuta Ni Nkhongono Waka?
Baibolo likuti na nkhongono zake, Chiuta wali kulenga vyose. Kasi wakutipwelelera?
MAFUMBO AGHO BAIBOLO LIKUZGORA
Ntchivichi Chikuchitika Para Munthu Wafwa?
Kasi ŵakufwa ŵakumanya chilichose?
MAFUMBO AGHO BAIBOLO LIKUZGORA
Chifukwa Wuli Nkhwenera Kulomba? Kasi Chiuta Wanizgorenge?
Kuti Chiuta wazgore malurombo ghinu vikuthemba pa umo imwe mukuchitira.


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Kasi Baibolo Likuti Wuli na Nthengwa za Ŵanalume Pera Panji Ŵanakazi Pera?
Ivyo Baibolo likuyowoya
Chiuta ndiyo wakamba kupeleka malango gha nthengwa. Baibolo likuti: ‘
Mwanalume wasidenge awiske na anyina na kubatikana na muwoli wake, ndipo ŵaŵenge thupi limoza.’ (Genesis 2:24) Dikishonare yinyake yikuti, lizgu ilo pa Chitumbuka tikuti “
muwoli,” pa Chihebere likung’anamura mwanakazi. (Vine’s Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words) Yesu wakati “
mwanalume na mwanakazi” ndiwo ŵatoranenge.—Mateyu 19:4.
Ntheura Chiuta wakukhumba kuti mwanalume na mwanakazi ndiwo ŵatoranenge. Ŵanalume na ŵanakazi ŵali kulengeka kuti ŵawovwiranenge maghanoghano, ŵakondweskanenge pakugonana, na kubaba ŵana.
Manyani Vinandi
MAFUMBO AGHO BAIBOLO LIKUZGORA
Kasi Baibolo Likuti Wuli na Nthengwa za Ŵanalume Panji Ŵanakazi Pera?
Kasi Chiuta wakuwona wuli nkhani ya kugonana ŵanalume panji ŵanakazi pera? Kasi munthu uyo wali na khumbo lakugonana na ŵanalume panji ŵanakazi ŵanyake wangachita wuli kuti wakondweske Chiuta?
IVYO ŴANYAMATA NA ŴASUNGWANA ŴAKUFUMBA
Nkhudokera Ŵanyamata Ŵanyane Panji Ŵasungwana Ŵanyane, Kasi Ndikuti Nili na Suzgo?
Kasi nkhwananga kudokera munyamata munyane panji msungwana munyane? Kasi ungachita wuli?


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Chinayi, March 30
Ŵanaŵaniyani mtundu wa munthu yo mutenere kuja. Mutenere kuja ndi nkharu yakupaturika ndipu muchitengi vinthu vakulongo kuti mukujipereka kwaku Chiuta.—2 Pet. 3:11.
Ntchitu zo zilongo kuti mukujipereka kwaku Chiuta ndi vinthu vo muchita pa mpingu nge kuwungana ndi kupharazga. Vinyaki vingaŵa vo ŵanthu aleka kuviwona nge kupemphera ndi kusambira Bayibolu pakumwija. Munthu yo wakujipereka kwaku Yehova wawona kuti kuchita vinthu ivi nkhwakufyo cha. Kweni watuvwa nge mo Fumu Davidi yinguvwiya yo yingukamba kuti: “Ndikondwa kuchita khumbu linu, Chiuta wangu, dangu linu le mukati mumtima wangu.” (Sumu 40:8) Kumbukani kuti asani munthu wajipatuliya ndi kubatizika, wazamumuka yija kwaku Yehova. Muteŵete Yehova chifukwa cha ŵanthu cha pamwenga apapi ŵinu. Nkharu yinu yamampha ndipuso vinthu vo muchita kulongo kuti mukujipereka kwaku Chiuta, mbukaboni wakuti mukukhorwa kuti mukusaniya unenesa kweniso kuti mukhumba kubatizika. w16.03 2:10, 12, 15
Chinkhondi, March 31
Chivwanu chechendazi, tavikilirikanga ndi dangu, mwaviyo, Dangu lingutilongoze kwaku Khristu.—Ŵag. 3:23, 24.
Marangu ngo Chiuta wangupereka kwa Ayisraele ngaŵavikiliyanga kuti aleki kutore nkharu kweniso kusopa angoza ko mitundu yinyaki yachitanga. Asani Ayisraele avwiya, Chiuta waŵatumbikanga. Kweni asani aleka kuvwiya akumananga ndi masuzgu. (Mar. 28:1, 2, 15) Penga so chifukwa chinyaki cho ulongozi ufya wakhumbikiyanga. Dangu lo Chiuta wangupereka kwaku Mosese linguwovya Ayisraele kuti anozgeke chinthu chinyaki chakuzirwa chakukwasana ndi khumbu laki. Chinthu ichi nkhuza kwaku Mesiya, yo ndi Yesu Khristu. Dangu linguwovya Ayisraele kuziŵa kuti ŵenga ŵanthu ambula kufikapu. Linguŵawovya so kuziŵa kuti akhumbikanga sembi kuti yiŵawombo ku maubudi ngawu. (Ŵag. 3:19; Ŵah. 10:1-10) Kweniso Dangu linguwovya kuvikiliya mkoka wa banja lo Mesiya wanguwiyamu kweniso kuti ŵanthu amuziŵi wati waza. Mwaviyo, Dangu lenga nge mulongozi wakutifikisa kwaku Khristu. w16.03 4:6, 7
Chisulu, April 1
Jani masu! Murwani winu Dyaboli, wayingayinga nge nkharamu yakukoroma, wakhumbisisa kuti wamezi munyaki.—1 Pet. 5:8.
Pakwamba, mungelu munyaki wenga pa ubwezi wamampha ndi Yehova. Kweni pavuli paki, wangwamba kukhumbira kuti ŵanthu amusopengi. M’malu mwakukaniza maŵanaŵanu ngaheni ngenanga, iyu wanguzomereza kuti ngakuwi mpaka wangubuda. (Yak. 1:14, 15) Tiziŵa kuti mungelu mwenuyu ndi Satana ndipu “wakujalikisikapu cha mu uneneska.” Iyu wangugarukiya Yehova ndipu wanguja “wusewu wa aboza.” (Yoh. 8:44) Kutuliya po wangugarukiya, Satana walongo kuti ndi murwani mukulu waku Yehova ndipu watiŵayanja cha ŵanthu. Mazina ngo wakupaskika ngalongo kuti ngwakupusisa ukongwa. Mwakuyeruzgiyapu, zina lakuti Satana ling’anamuwa “Wakususka.” Ivi vilongo kuti wazomereza cha kuti Chiuta ndiyu ngwakwenere kuwusa chilengedu chosi ndipu wasuska mwankhaza ukongwa. Satana wakhumbisiska kuti muwusu waku Yehova uleki kugwira ntchitu. w15 5/15 1:1, 2


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MAKADI GHA ŴANTHU ŴA MU BAIBOLO
MAKADI GHA ŴANTHU ŴA MU BAIBOLO
Manowa
Chita dawunilodi kadi la munthu wa mu Baibolo ili, ndipo usambire vya Manowa. Iyo wakaŵa dada wa mwana uyo wakaŵa wa nkhongono chomene pa charu chose chapasi. Pulinta, cheketa, pinda pakati, na kusunga.
Vinyake
Gidiyoni
Wakaŵa wakuchenjera, kweniso wakawopanga yayi.
Potifara
Chita dawunilodi kadi ili kuti umanye vinandi vya Potifara, uyo wakaŵa bwana wa Yosefe ku Eguputo.
Mariya
Manya uko Mariya wakaluta na Yesu wati wakwaniska mazuŵa 40 kufuma apo wakababikira. Pulinta, cheketa, na kusunga kadi la munthu wa mu Baibolo ili.


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Mbanjani Ŵakuchita Khumbo la Yehova Mazuŵa Ghano?
Ŵakaboni ŵa Yehova ŵali pa charu chose chapasi. Ndipo ŵakufuma mu mitundu yakupambanapambana. Ntchivichi chikovwira kuti ŵaŵe ŵakukolerana?
Kasi Khumbo la Chiuta Ndakuti Wuli?
Chiuta wakukhumba kuti ŵanthu ŵamanye khumbo lake pa charu chose chapasi. Kasi khumbo lake ili ndakuti wuli, ndipo mbanjani mazuŵa ghano awo ŵakusambizga ŵanthu khumbo la Chiuta?
Kasi Ŵakaboni ŵa Yehova Mbanthu Ŵamtundu Wuli?
Kasi mukumanyapo ŵanthu ŵalinga awo Mbakaboni ŵa Yehova? Kasi mukumanya vichi chomene vya ise?
Chifukwa Wuli Tikuchemeka Ŵakaboni ŵa Yehova?
Pali vifukwa vitatu ivyo tikatolera zina ili.
Vikenda Wuli Kuti Unenesko Uvumbukweso?
Kasi ntchivichi chingatovwira kuti tikhorwe kuti ivyo tikugomezga vikufuma nadi mu Baibolo?
Chifukwa Wuli Tikafumiska Baibolo la Mang’anamuliro gha Charu Chiphya?
Kasi Baibolo ili likupambana wuli na ghanyake?
Kasi Vikuŵa Wuli Para Tawungana Pamoza?
Para tawungana, tikusambira Malemba na kuchiskana. Tizamumupokelerani na mawoko ghaŵiri!
Kasi Ntchakovwira Kuwungana na Ŵakhristu Ŵanyithu?
Mazgu gha Chiuta ghakuti Ŵakhristu ŵawunganenge. Sambirani uwemi wa maungano agha.
Kasi Tikuchita Wuli Para Tawungana?
Kasi mukukhumba kumanya umo tikuchitira para tawungana? Namwe muzamukhorwa kuti mwasambira vinthu vyakuzirwa kufuma mu Baibolo.
Chifukwa Wuli Tikuvwara Makora pa Ungano?
Kasi ivyo tikuvwara vili na kanthu wuli kwa Chiuta? Wonani fundo za mu Baibolo izo tikulondezga pa nkhani ya kuvwara na kujitozga.
Kasi Tinganozgekera Wuli Maungano?
Mukwenera kunozgekera maungano kuti mukapindule.
Kasi Nyengo Yakusopera ya Mbumba Ni Vichi?
Wonani umo namwe vingamovwilirani kuti muŵe ŵabwezi ŵa Chiuta kweniso kuti mutemwanenge mu mbumba yinu.
Chifukwa Wuli Tikuŵa na Maungano Ghakuru?
Chaka chilichose tikukumana katatu pa maungano ghakuru. Kasi maungano agha ghangamovwirani wuli?
Kasi Ntchito ya Kupharazga Yikuchitika Wuli?
Tikuchita ivyo Yesu wakachitanga apo wakaŵa pa charu chapasi. Kasi wakapharazganga wuli?
Kasi Mupayiniya Ni Njani?
Mwezi uliwose, Ŵakaboni ŵanyake ŵakupharazga maora 30, 50, panji kujumpha apa. Ntchivichi chikuŵatuma?
Kasi Ŵapayiniya Ŵakusambira Vichi?
Kasi awo ŵajipeleka kupharazga Ufumu nyengo zose ŵakusambizgika vichi?
Kasi Ŵalara Ŵakovwira Wuli Mpingo?
Ŵalara mbanthu ŵakopa Chiuta ndipo ŵakudangilira mpingo. Kasi ŵakovwira wuli?
Kasi Ŵateŵeti Ŵakovwira Ŵakuchita Vichi mu Mpingo?
Ŵateŵeti ŵakovwira, ŵakovwira kuti vinthu vyendenge makora mu mpingo. Manyani umo ŵakovwilira awo ŵakwiza ku maungano.
Kasi Ŵalaŵiliri ŵa Dera Ŵakutovwira Wuli?
Chifukwa wuli ŵalaŵiliri ŵa dera ŵakuchezgera mipingo? Mungachita wuli kuti ŵamovwirani para ŵiza pa mpingo?
Kasi Tikovwira Wuli Ŵakhristu Ŵanyithu Para Ŵasuzgika?
Para kwachitika soka, tikuchitapo kanthu mwaluŵiro kuti tovwire awo ŵakhwaskika na kuŵapembuzga. Kasi tikovwira wuli?
Kasi Muzga Wakugomezgeka na Wavinjeru Ni Njani?
Yesu wakalayizga kuti wazamwimika muzga kuti wapelekenge chakurya chauzimu pa nyengo yakwenelera. Kasi ivi vikuchitika wuli?
Kasi Wupu Wakulongozga Ukuchita Vichi?
Kale, ŵapositole na ŵanalume ŵalara ŵachoko waka ndiwo ukaŵa wupu wakulongozga mipingo ya Ŵakhristu. Mazuŵa ghano ke?
Kasi Beteli Ni Vichi?
Beteli ni malo ghapadera chomene ndipo pa malo agha pakuchitika ntchito yakuzirwa. Manyani vya awo ŵakuteŵetera pa malo agha.
Kasi mu Maofesi Mukuchitika Vichi?
Awo ŵakukhumba kuwona maofesi ghithu tikuŵapokelera na kuŵalongora. Zaninge tizakamulongorani!
Kasi Vikwenda Wuli Pakulemba na Kung’anamura Mabuku?
Tikupanga mabuku mu viyowoyero vyakujumpha 700. Chifukwa wuli tikuŵikapo mtima kuchita ntchito iyi?
Kasi Ndalama Zakwendeskera Ntchito pa Charu Chose Zikufumankhu?
Kasi tikupambana wuli na visopa vinyake pa nkhani ya vyakupeleka?
Chifukwa Wuli Tikuzenga Nyumba za Ufumu, Ndipo Tikuzenga Wuli?
Chifukwa wuli malo agho tikusoperapo ghakuchemeka Nyumba ya Ufumu? Manyani umo malo agha ghakovwilira mipingo.
Kasi Tingawovwira Wuli Kunozga Nyumba ya Ufumu?
Usange Nyumba ya Ufumu yikuwoneka makora, yikupeleka ntchindi kwa Chiuta withu. Kasi pali ndondomeko wuli izo zikovwira kuti Nyumba ya Ufumu yiŵe yakutowa nyengo zose?
Kasi Layibulare Iyo Yili mu Nyumba ya Ufumu Yingatovwira Wuli?
Kasi mungatemwa kuŵazga kuti mupulikiske ivyo Baibolo likuyowoya? Lutani ku layibulare mu Nyumba ya Ufumu!
Kasi pa Webusayiti Yithu Pali Vichi?
Mungamanya vinandi vya ise na ivyo tikugomezga kweniso mazgoro ghakufuma mu Baibolo pa mafumbo agho mungaŵa nagho.
Kasi Muchitenge Khumbo la Yehova?
Yehova wakumutemwani nadi. Kasi mungalongora wuli kuti mukukhumba nadi kuchita khumbo la Yehova?


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Ana Baibulo Jikusasala Yatuli Pangani Jagonana Acalume Kapena Acakongwepe?
M’YILAMBO yejinji, ŵandu akutagulilanape naga malombela ga acalume kapena acakongwepe gali gakuŵajilwa. Nambope, mu 2015, Luŵala Lwekulungwa lwa Magambo ku United States lwatamilikasisye lilamusi lyakulombana acalume kapena acakongwepe pacilambo cosope. Mkupita kwandaŵi, nganiji jawandile mnope pa Intaneti. Nambo ciwusyo caŵawusyaga mnope ŵandu caliji cakuti, “Ana Baibulo jikusasala yatuli panganiji?”
Baibulo jangasala cilicose naga ŵandu akwete ufulu wakulombana acalume kapena acakongwepe. Nambo ciwusyo cakusosekwa mnope ni cakuti, Ana Baibulo jikusasala yatuli yakwayana ni gonana kwa acalume kapena acakongwepe?
Ŵandu akwete nganisyo syakulekanganalekangana panganiji. Ŵane akusati Baibulo jikusalekasya gonana kapena kulombana kwa acalume kapena acakongwepe. Ŵanesoni akusati lilamusi lya m’Baibulo lyakuti “mumnonyeleje mjenu,” likusalimbikasya gonana ni mundu jwalijose.—Aloma 13:9.
ANA BAIBULO JIKUSASALA YATULI?
Pamaloŵe gagali pasipa, ana gapi gagali gakuwona?
Baibulo jikusalekasya gonana kwa acalume kapena acakongwepe.
Baibulo jikusakunda gonana kwa acalume kapena acakongwepe.
Baibulo jikusalimbikasya lusagu (kuŵengana ni ŵandu ŵakusagonana acalume kapena acakongwepe).
KWANGA:
YISYENE. Baibulo jikusati, “Ŵakusagonana acalumepe . . . ngasajinjila mu Ucimwene wa Mlungu.” (1 Akolinto 6:9, 10) Yeleyi yikupwatikaposoni acakongwe ŵakusagonana ni acakongwe acimjawo.—Aloma 1:26.
YAWUNAMI. Baibulo jikusajiganya kuti jwamlume ni jwamkongwe ŵalombanepe ni ŵampaka agonaneje.—Genesis 1:27, 28; Miyambo 5:18, 19.
YAWUNAMI. Baibulo jikusalekasya gonana kwa acalume kapena acakongwepe, nambo jangalimbikasya lusagu, kuŵengana ni ŵandu ŵane kapena kwatendela yacipongwe ŵandu ŵakusagonana acalume kapena acakongwepe.—Aloma 12:18. [1]
Ana Ŵamboni sya Yehofa Akusakulupilila Yatuli Panganiji?
Ŵamboni sya Yehofa akusakulupilila kuti Baibulo jili jakamucisya mnope paumi, m’yoyo akusakuyaga malamusi gakwe. (Yesaya 48:17) [2] Yeleyi yikulosya kuti jemanjaji akusaŵambala yamsese, kupwatikapo gonana kwa acalume kapena acakongwepe. (1 Akolinto 6:18) [3] Jemanjaji akusasagula jika kuŵambala ndamoji soni akwete ufulu pangani jeleji.
Ŵamboni sya Yehofa akusakuya lilamusi lyakuti twatendeleje ŵane yindu yatukusaka kuti atutendeleje
Ŵamboni sya Yehofa akusatenda yosope yampaka akombole kuti ‘aŵe pamtendele ni ŵandu wosope.’ (Ahebeli 12:14) Atamose kuti Ŵamboni ŵangatenda nawo yagonana acalume kapena acakongwepe, nambo ŵangakanganicisya ŵane kuti aŵenganeje ni ndamoji. Soni ŵangalagasya ŵandu ŵa yitendoyi mpela kwaputa kapena kwawulaga, soni ŵangasangalala papikene kuti ŵane yatendecele yeleyi. Ŵamboni sya Yehofa akusakuya lilamusi lyakuti twatendeleje ŵane yindu yatukusaka kuti atutendeleje.—Matayo 7:12.
Ana Baibulo Jikusalimbikasya Lusagu?
Ŵandu ŵane mpaka ajile kuti Baibulo jikulimbikasya kuti tuŵenganeje ni ŵandu ŵakusagonana acalume kapena acakongwepe. Mpaka ajilesoni kuti ŵakusakuya malamusi gelega ŵangaganicisya yakusaka ya ŵane. Mpaka aŵeceteje kuti, ‘Baibulo ŵajilembile kalakala, ŵandu mkanawuguce mmeso. Masiku agano tukusanonyela ŵandu ŵamtundu wuliwose, cilambo cilicose, soni yakusaka ya jwalijose.’ Kwa jemanjaji nganisyo syawo sili syakuti kana ndamo jagonana acalume kapena acakongwepe kuli mpela kuŵengana ni ŵandu ŵa mtundu wine. Nambo ana yeleyi yili yakupikanika? Iyayi.
Ligongo pana kulekangana pasikati pa kukana ndamo jagonana acalume kapena acakongwepe ni kuŵengana ni ŵandu ŵakusatenda yeleyi. Baibulo jikusati Aklistuwe twacimbicisyeje ŵandu ŵa mtundu wuliwose. (1 Petulo 2:17) [4] Nambo yeleyi ngayikugopolela kuti Aklistu agambeje kwiticisya yitendo yamtundu wuliwose.
Kwende tuwanicisye m’yi: Tujile kuti wawojo akusakuwona kwemba sona kuŵa kwakogoya, soni akusaŵengana nako. Ni tuwanicisye kuti kumasengo kwawo kwana mundu jwakusakwemba. Ana ŵandu mpaka ŵawoneje wawojo kuŵa ŵakusigalila ligongo lyakuti akwete nganisyo syakulekangana ni sya ŵane pa nganiji? Pakuŵa mundu jwakumasengo kwawojo akusakwemba, nambo wawojo iyayi, ana nikuti akusaŵengana ni mundujo? Tuwanicisye kuti mundu jwakumasengo jula akwakanganicisya kuti am’woneje sona kuŵa jwambone, ana pelepa jwakusigalila, soni jwangakunda ya ŵane ngaŵa ni jwalakwejo?
Ŵamboni sya Yehofa akusakuya malamusi ga m’Baibulo, mwati ŵangatenda yajikusalekasya. Nambope, ŵanganyosya kapena kwalagasya ŵandu ŵa ndamo syakulekangana ni syawo.
Ana Yajikusala Baibulo pa Nganiji Kuli Kalalisya Yindu?
Nambi wuli ya ŵandu ŵakusanonyela gonana acalume kapena acakongwepe? Ana tujile kuti cili cipago cawo? Naga cili cipago, ana kwalekasya kutenda yakusayinonyela nganikuŵa kwaleŵela?
Baibulo jangasala kuti Mlungu ŵapanganyisye ŵandu kuti asacilileje gonana acalume kapena acakongwepe. Nambo jikusati ndamo sine komboleka kutamilicika mwa mundu. Atamose yili m’yoyo, Baibulo jikusatusalila kuti, naga tukusaka kumsangalasya Mlungu, tukusosekwa kuŵambala ndamo syangaŵajilwa, kupwatikapo gonana acalume kapena acakongwepe.—2 Akolinto 10:4, 5.
Ŵandu ŵane akusati yajikusasala Baibulo pa nganiji kuli kalalisya yindu. Ŵanduŵa akusaganisya m’yoyo ligongo akusajendela yakuti tutendeje cilicose catukusaka, atamose pa ngani syagonana. Akusatisoni ngakusosekwa kuligosa kapena ngaŵa mkupakombola kuligosako. Nambope, Baibulo jikusati ŵandu mpaka akombole kulilekasya pa yakusasacilila. Mwakulekangana ni yinyama, ŵanduwe tukwete lunda lwakusagula yakutenda.—Akolose 3:5. [5]
Aganicisye ayi: Ŵandu ŵane akusati ndamo sine mpela kupya mtima, sili syacipago. Baibulo jangasala naga kupya mtima kuli kwacipago, nambo jikusati ŵandu ŵane ali ‘ŵakwanguya kupya mtima’ soni ŵane ‘ŵakwanguya kutumbila.’ (Miyambo 22:24; 29:22) Nambo jikusatisoni, ‘Mkutyosyeje kupya mtima, soni mlece kutumbila.’—Salimo 37:8; Aefeso 4:31.
Ŵandu ŵamnono ni ŵampaka akane yajikusala Baibuloyi kapena kujila kuti kuya yeleyi kuli kwaleŵela ŵandu ŵakusapya mtima mwakwanguya. Atamose yili m’yoyo, ŵandu ŵajinji ŵakusakulupilila kuti kupya mtima kuli kwacipago akusalingalinga kwakamucisya ŵandu ŵakusapya mtima mwakwanguya.
Yeleyi ni yakusatendasoni Ŵamboni sya Yehofa kwa jwalijose jwakwete ndamo syakutindana ni Baibulo, kupwatikapo ŵakusagonana mkanajinjile mu ulombela. Ŵamboniŵa akusakuya maloŵe ga m’Baibulo gakuti, ‘Jwalijose aŵeje jwakumanyilila kucilamula cilu cakwe, pakucicimbicisya ni kucisamala cenene, pangacisakasya. Mkayikosya yakusaka ya cilu cenu ya usakwa.’—1 Atesalonika 4:4, 5.
“Ŵane mwa Jemanja Mwatendaga Yeleyi.”
Ŵandu ŵaŵasakaga kuŵa Aklistu m’yaka 100 yandanda ŵakwete ndamo syakulekanganalekangana. Nambo ŵajinji ŵacenjile mnope kuti ajinjile Ciklistu. Mwambone, Baibulo jikusasala ya ŵandu ŵaŵaliji ‘ŵamsese, ŵakulambila milungu jine, ŵacikululu, soni ŵagonana acalumepe.’ Nambosoni jikusati, “Ŵane mwa jemanja mwatendaga yeleyi.”—1 Akolinto 6:9-11.
Baibulo pajikusala kuti “ŵane mwa jemanja mwatendaga yeleyi,” ana jikugopolela kuti wosope ŵaŵalesile ndamo jagonana acalume kapena acakongwepe nganatandilasoni kukumbila kutenda yeleyi? Iyayi, komboleka kuti ŵane ŵatandilesoni. Ni ligongo lyakwe Baibulo jasasilesoni kuti, ‘Ajendelecele kwenda mwa msimu, m’yoyo ngasatenda yakumbila ya cilu.’—Agalatia 5:16.
Ana pelepa Baibulo jikulosya kuti Aklistu mpaka atame ngakumbila yindu yangaŵajilwa? Ngaŵa m’yoyo, nambo jikulosya kuti jwalijose akwete ukoto wakusagula kuti akayitenda yakukumbilayo. Aklistu akusalingalinga kuti akayiganicisyaga mnope yakumbila yangaŵajilwa mpakana kwika pakuyitenda.—Yakobo 1:14, 15. [6]
Pelepatu Baibulo jikulosya kuti kusacilila yine yakwe kuli kwakulekangana ni kuyitenda. (Aloma 7:16-25) Mundu jwakusasacilila gonana ni acalume kapena acakongwe acimjakwe komboleka kuŵambala ganicisya mnope yindu yeleyi. Yeleyi yili yakulandana ni mwampaka aŵambalile yindu yine yangaŵajilwa mpela ukali, cikululu, soni umbombo.—1 Akolinto 9:27; 2 Petulo 2:14, 15.
Atamose kuti Ŵamboni sya Yehofa akusakuya yajikusasala Baibulo, nambope ŵangakanganicisya ŵane kuti ayikuyejesoni. Ŵangajikanganicisyasoni boma kuti jicenje malamusi pakusaka kwateteya ŵandu ŵakusatenda yakulekangana ni jemanjajo. Utenga wakusalalicila Ŵamboni uli wambone, soni akusasacilila kwasalila wosope ŵakusaka kupikanila.—Masengo 20:20.
^ 1. Aloma 12:18: “Atameje mwamtendele ni ŵandu wosope.”
^ 2. Yesaya 48:17: “Une Yehofa, ndili Mlungu jwenu, jwangumjiganya kuti jemanja yindu yimjendeleje cenene”
^ 3. 1 Akolinto 6:18: “Atile yamsese!”
^ 4. 1 Petulo 2:17: “Ŵacimbicisyeje ŵandu wosope.”
^ 5. Akolose 3:5: ‘M’yiwulaje sambano yakumbila ya mtima wenu ya cilambo capasi yayili mwa jemanja, mpela cikululu, yausakwa, soni yakusaka yangalumbana.’
^ 6. Yakobo 1:14, 15: ‘Mundu jwalijose akusalinjidwa ni lisosa lya mtima wakwe lyalikusam’wutila ku ulemwa, nipo likusamgwicisya mu ulemwa. Pelepo lisosa lya mundu likusaŵeleka ulemwa.’